Your Expectations Are All Around You.

‘Your results show what you are expecting.’- Anonymous

The above comment stopped me in my tracks. It was a Monday morning, by habit I was playing YouTube videos while stretching. I had finished an Abraham Hicks video when YouTube rolled into a digital short. A voice flowed throughout the airways and said ‘Your Results show what you are expecting.’ Because I was a mid-stretch I was unable to catch whom this bit of wisdom came from. I did however, followed his instruction and observed my surroundings. 

That small piece of advice brought my expectations to the front of my mind.

Yes. I am in the exact apartment that I expected to be in.

Each morning I wake up and say: “I AM READY FOR MAGIC!!!”

That micro habit is my way of expecting magic during the day. It works. Each day magic does appear in my life. 

Most of us look for a grand gesture to believe in magic. Not I. I understand that magic comes in many forms. 

For example, there have been moments when I have a frown on my face and a random person will come by and smile at me. That is magical to me. A small reminder of how blessed I am.

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I started doing the opposite of what I learned at a young age. Growing up there was a very extreme religious presence around me. Those religious views heavily relied on the “you shall die.” There was not much talk of living a happy life.

My rebellion from that mindset was, ‘if I am going to die might as well die with a smile on my face.’ 

That was my expectation. I wasn’t expecting a future of happiness.

Thankfully, I have never lost my sense of wonderment and adventure and learned a few things.

Plus! Alignment with purpose is pure freedom.

Take a look around now with the question ‘Is my life meeting my expectations?’

If the answer is no. That’s ok. Great in fact. Now you know.

‘Knowing is half the battle’ -GI Joe

The expectation of your life is all around you.

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Expectations I believe are attached to self-love.

The level of self-love is evident in your attire, your home, the food you put in your mouth.

The more you love yourself, the more you expect good to come into your life. Because you believe you deserve it.

You are worthy.

As your expectations come to light your resistance shows.

Which is awesome.

Discovering resistance opens opportunities to grow.

The next time things are going down a random road take a breath and adjust your expectations.

A different path will light up ahead.

‘Expectation combines desire and belief’- Abraham Hicks

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

*Feature picture is by Darius Bashar on Unsplash

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Joke Provoke a Negative Reaction?

What my reaction to a joke tells me about my vibration.

Seth Rogan made a Covid joke recently which I found funny. 

Some folks thought it was too soon.

Since I am not a personal friend of Seth Rogan, I am removed from any real reaction to what he does. Which poses the question. 

What if it was a good friend that made a Covid joke?

This situation knocked on my door recently. A friend of mine made a joke about covid that honestly made me pause.

 My reaction (in my head) was that my friend was lacking a bit of social awareness.

Immediately, the next thought went to, why am I being so judgmental?

I am a student of the law of attraction. I believe that the observance of my reality is a direct reflection of my vibration.

I am also extremely passionate about seeing every situation from different perspectives.

The fact that I had such a negative reaction to a simple joke made me ask my favorite question to myself:

“Is this true?”

When I ask myself this question it opens my mind up to tune into exactly what I am feeling. It sends me on a course of understanding, not judgment.

‘You can never find the answer in the same energy as the problem.’ — Abraham Hicks

The first question came to mind:

· Am I trying to control my friend’s behavior?

Answer: Yes.

My friends are the kind people in the world. So, the real asshole here is me.

 I am taking a joking way too seriously. This means I am in a serious mindset

The next statement that came to mind is a quote from Abraham Hicks.

‘There is nothing serious going on here.’

Things are changing for me quickly. I am enjoying the unfolding yet, like most of us, I harbor some impaitence. 

This situation sang the phrase ‘trust the process’, extrememly loudly. 

Subconsciously I have been associating what is happening now to an event in the past.

All these conclusions happened in real-time. 

I paused by taking some deep breaths and didn’t immediately respond in a negative tone to my friend whom was just making a joke.

I am grateful that I have the emotional intelligence to realize that all of my reactions are in my control.

The only person’s behavior I should be trying to control is my own.

And that’s what I did.

This situation also reminded me of my intent into all the relationships take part in, which is (with gratitude) an honor to be a witness to another’s life.

Full circle I was grateful for that joke.

Even made a random pandemic joke a bit later in the day.

I had been unaware that I have been paddling around in the lake of stress.

It felt good to lighten up.

It is my inner world that controls my reality. 

I was pleased I was aware of the lesson.

The Universe has my back.

And that guidance comes in the most surprising ways.

I am grateful that I am open to receive it.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

What Is Taking Up Space In Your Mind?

When we think of space, the collective response is to reference space in terms of what we see. 

The physical identity of space. 

There are many books and shows about how to declutter and feng shui your space to help you grow.

Yet have you ever stopped and thought about the space in your mind?

What is taking up the space in your mind? 

There is a great question that is circulating right now, and it is powerful: 

‘Who or what is renting space in your head?’

Great question, right?

That statement resonated so much with me, and I gave it a proper think.

What is exactly taking up space in my mind?

Am I still replaying events that are no longer relevant?

Am I walking around with a negative thought that is still tying me to the past?

That latter question is one many should ask themselves often. 

Do you know a person who completely lives in the past?

I am not referring to a person who brings up some positive past event to laugh about during a conversation.

Nor am I referencing that individual who brings up a past event to share to give context to a lesson.

I am speaking about that person who is still angry about something that happened, or they have preserved to have happened a wicked long time ago.

Studies have shown that our memories aren’t always the truth.

When we retell a story 50% is made up.

Meaning, that the story you end up telling usually becomes based on how you wish to feel at that moment. 

Often that story takes on a very different turn than the actual event.

So, when you are hanging on to a negative event from 10 years ago or even 2 weeks ago, you are most likely being more dramatic than need be.

Especially, when you feel that someone has wronged you.

Are you letting that person or negative event live in your brain?

Ask yourself why?

9 times out of 10 the person that you think has wronged you, is going about their life with you as a consideration. 

So why are you still considering them as a factor in your life?

‘You are letting them live rent-free in your head.’

The art of moving on is a powerful one.

Just like you let go of worn clothing and chip plates let the stuff that doesn’t serve you go to.

I believe the best way is to start a meditation practice.

The more you calm your mind and become involved in the silence the better you feel.

The better you feel the less you want to go back to rehash those negative moments.

‘Life is about feeling good’ – Abraham Hicks

Decide on your story.

Wake in the morning and decide who you want to be.

Do you want to be an angry person or a vibration of love?

Talk to yourself. 

Make your mission to know thy self.

These efforts will affect the chemistry of your body.

You can rewire yourself to be the person you were meant to be.

Deprogram yourself from the negative and program yourself to achieve your dream.

Life is about growing.

Let go of the old and embrace the new.

Change your thoughts and change your life.

Keep the curiosity of a child and you will live the way you are meant to live.

Joyfully.

Now go and declutter your mind. 

Let go of what doesn’t serve you and watch your reality open to what does serve you. 

‘A belief is a thought you keep thinking.’- Abraham Hicks.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

Positive Perspective or Negative Perspective?

What is Your Perspective?

‘A belief is a thought you keep thinking?’

-Abraham & Ester Hicks

I would define perspective as the outlook you have on the world. 

For decades I never question my perspective.

I simply reacted to the world. 

Then my perspective switched and I began responding.

First, I began questioning where my perspective came from. 

The answer was my perspective or the way I see the world was shaped from my experiences in life. 

Experiences that gave me a story to tell from the perspective of my beliefs. 

Beliefs that may not be entirely my truth.

Let me ask you a question?

Are you that person who gets mad at the electric bill when you receive it?

Or are you the person who thanks the electric company for providing light?

The more that I learned of the law of attraction, gratitude for my bills became a thing.

It dawned on me that some of my perspective on how the world worked was based off someone’s else experiences. 

Your perspective is also your vibration.

If you consistently see negativity, you are in a low vibrational wave.

High vibrations feel so much better. 

Meditation is a great way to shift.

By consistently clearing your mind, awareness heightens.

That awareness lets you listen to the story you are telling.

Your perspective.

The other night, I caught myself grudgingly turning off the lights in another part of my apartment. 

Leaving on the lights only in the room which I was at. 

I didn’t like that because the lighting in my place is a vibe. 

I caught myself. 

That belief was not my own.

Throughout the years I have lived with people who were always complaining about the electric bill and leaving lights on. 

That belief seemed to be lingering in my subconscious. 

As I became aware of it, I released it. 

I turned back on the lights. 

Thru consistent meditation, I was able to be aware of that tingle of negative emotion because I was doing something I didn’t want to do. 

Life will change very quickly once a positive perspective swift is made.

One of the most interesting tools I used to shift my perspective to a more positive state was writing 55 times for 5 days: 

‘This is a kind Universe’

That kind of repetitive writing is a programming tool.

It also helped me focus on where my negative views of the world really originated.

Understanding perception also, (in my opinion) makes you better in relationships.

When asked for advice or a comment on another’s situation, you can approach it from their perspective, not your own. 

It makes you more honest. 

Thus, giving support from the state of kindness and love. 

We are all beautiful spirits here to have a beautiful human experience. 

Live from a perspective of love and stories full of love will be your perspective.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Self-Love Leads to Self-Forgiveness

Self-love is one of the most empowering emotions you can possess.

The more you love yourself, the world opens in a whole new way.

Your perception does shift.

Why?

Because as you love yourself more you raise the bar of what you would expect, because of the love you have for yourself.

A reflection in that is forgiveness.

Most of us feel that we need to forgive someone else for what they have done.

When forgiveness is about self.

Our truth is held down when we don’t forgive ourselves.

Self-forgiveness is power.

You cannot control other people’s actions.

The sooner that fact is cemented, the sooner some aspects of stress will be elevated.

Now, I must say that I came to all this self-discovery because I had therapy.

Speaking to someone who has no emotional connection to you is relaxing. 

It is easier to gain trust when you know that they wish for nothing for your success.

So, once again, I am an advocate for therapy.

Thru therapy, I was able to learn about forgiveness.

After my accident, I was mostly angry at myself.

I was convinced that I made it happen.

Then, I went the blame game route.

Eventually, I just surrendered and made peace with where I am.

I still make a conscious effort to do that today.

Surrendering to the NOW; is my light during contrast.

Learning the power of NOW comes with a level of self-love that I had to learn to be conscious of.

I love myself. 

I understand that yes, I may wish for some things to be different, but it doesn’t matter in the present.

I can’t wish for a different past because I love myself NOW.

There just isn’t room in my emotional mind for both perceptions.

I started first with the Ho’oponopono meditation.

The Ho’oponopono mediation is a Hawaiian meditation. It is a mediative state of forgiveness.

It is beautiful and I highly recommend it. 

Although, I cannot tell you if it will satisfy you.

Only you have the power to forgive yourself and level up.

These are only tools for you to focus less on the outside world.

Your inside world will reflect your outside world.

There is a reason meditation encourages you to relax.

Nobody can tell you to forgive yourself.

It is a magical tool that you can utilize.

Start small.

As you end your day, reflect on that day’s events.

Forgive yourself for the small stuff.

It’s okay that you didn’t get it done.

It will be okay that you reacted that way.

Forgiving yourself and celebrating yourself will open your mind to something different.

Which is what we are all striving for.

Something different from the struggle.

A new perspective because you love yourself to what more.

To believe you truly deserve more.

Forgive yourself for not knowing.

Forgive yourself for judging yourself.

Forgive yourself because your journey is your own. 

A fact that nobody can take away from you.

You do not have to keep up with the Jones.

I have learned to forgive myself when it came to my accident.

Once I completely and wholeheartedly forgave myself, my perception shifted. 

I started to focus on what I wanted and not something that I cannot control.

Want to shift the perception?

Forgive yourself.

Love yourself.

For once you open your mind; there is no way to close it.

Thank you for letting me share. 

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Self Love Is Self Respect

Self-Love Is Self-Respect. 

Self-Love to me is exactly what the word implies, how much do you love yourself.

There are many factors to that. 

Self-respect has a lot to do with how much you truly love yourself. 

The more you fall in love with yourself, your perception of the reality you live due to the story you tell, comes into focus. 

As you become of the story you tell yourself and others every day, you may realize that the words are not your own. 

We are all programmed. 

Programmed by well-meaning parents and teachers etc, because they want you to live your best life on their terms. 

Don’t get me twisted, I mean older generations teach the younger generation what they think is best. 

We are thankful for that. 

In the spirit of growth, ‘the student will surpass the master’.

I recently heard this expression: 

‘Live for yourself. Not for what others perception of what life should be’

– Anonymous

The other quote that has caught my attention is:

‘What you think of me is none of my business’

-Larry Winget

There is also a book of the same name by Terry Cole-Whittaker.

I am very keen to dive into that book soon. 

Believe it or not, but the comprehension of those quotes will give you a sense of confidence. 

That is who you can measure your self-respect meter. 

Falling in love with oneself is putting your dreams first. 

You don’t react when others make judgments about you. 

It also leads to forgiveness. 

Forgiveness of self, letting the past be the past.

A changed perspective opens the mind to mistakes are learning lessons. 

Self-respect also guides you to set up boundaries.

The more you grow some people in your life will take a step back. 

You may even take a step away from them. 

Boundaries are a good thing.

There may be friends and family members who don’t understand.

They will project their insecurities onto you.

That is the fact.

As you become closer to your inner being things like that won’t bother you anymore.

I had someone in my life that used to do that to me.

I tolerated them in my life because they are family.

That person would constantly berate my life choices and did not wish for me to interact with their partner; in fear that my adventurous lifestyle would make them look inadequate. 

I do not behave in a way they thought is normal.

That comment made me understand that their perception of my life is based on their insecurities and has nothing to do with me.

You can gain a lot of insight when you listen.

That is why I distanced myself from them. 

Life is too short to be surrounded by haters.

This awakening all came to be because I have respect for myself.

I don’t need to go out and get it from anybody else.

This is self-love. 

This is self-respect.

I am firm in my belief that I am loved and supported.

I wake up every morning with that belief and fall asleep in the arms of my inner being. 

Having fun on my journey with eyes full of adventure, imagination, and wonder.

Live your life from the inside out and your life will change.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile. 

Not Your Typical Massage

I went for a well overdue massage the other day and was delighted to have my favorite masseuse attend to me. This amusing gentleman is full of entertaining stories about his life.

On this particular day, he chooses to share a very interesting story about his 18-year-old son that I just had to share.

Now, for context, I must inform you (the reader) that I am a black woman, and he is a white guy.

The masseuse’s son works at a popular restaurant chain in suburbia town in Florida.

A new line cook was hired recently and on his first day, this new hire exhibited some racial tendencies. 

The kitchen staff complained to the manager on duty about the inappropriate behavior of this guy as the night went on. The manager finally witnessed this new cook using a racial slur and immediately terminated him. Instructing him to punch out and go. 

The guy did what was asked without incident.

Later on, that evening when the restaurant closed; a dishwasher went outside to throw the garbage away and came across the fired cook.

The guy was standing in the parking lot leaning against his car brandishing a gun.

The employee rushed back inside and reported the incident to management.

The manager phone the local PD. The Police promptly showed up with the town SWAT team. 

All of the remaining employees were instructed to leave the building via the front door since it was understood the disgruntled guy was in the back of the building.

The masseuse’s son was the last employee to leave the building. 

As he exited he heard. 

“M*therf*cker get on the ground!”

It was the police in full gear yelling at him.

Of course, he did as he was told. 

A few minutes pass and they realize that he was not the person they sought.

The man had drove away right before the police came.

So, a couple of days pass, and the masseuse checks in with his son about the accident.

His son appears okay. 

That’s when my favorite masseuse tells his son;

“Now you know what it is like to be a black kid in America.”

I must admit I was speechless after he told me this. Shocked in a good way. 

I admired he took that moment to teach his son such a valuable lesson.

I did ask him if he thought his son was desensitized to the encounter because of all the ‘active shooter drills he has been exposed to.

He pondered and agreed.

The takeaway from that story. 

Times are changing. 

Minds are opening. 

And this masseur has the best stories.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

Let’s Sing!

The thing about singing is…

It’s just fabulous. 

“He who sings scares away his woes.” – Miguel De Cervantes 

Regardless, if you can carry a tune or be horrific at the tone, doesn’t matter. 

Singing is sweet relief for every single human.

Every single religion at its core has sung in its practice.

Crazy right.

Singing is a common denominator in all organized religions.

Plus!

There are health benefits to singing.

• Helps with Dementia.

A study found that a lot of the subjects enjoyed remembering lyrics.

• Improves speaking abilities with those diagnosed with stuttering. 
• Known to improve mood
• Great stress relief

I use singing as an outlet for emotions.

When I am feeling defensive; I belt out the ‘Zombie’ by The Cranberries or ‘You outta know’ by Alanis Morissette. 

When I am done.

I am lighter. 

Endorphins will be released while singing.

That is why singing may aid in a longer life on Earth.

Two prestigious Universities did a study on a choir group.

The findings were that it helped with mental health. 

Plus, it led to a healthier lifestyle. 

Singing is also a benefit of seeing the perspective of another culture. 

We can become more empathetic while understanding the lyrics of another.

Want to get a group to come together. 

Start playing a song.

I bet if you start playing Neil Diamond’s ‘Sweet Caroline’ at an oceanside restaurant in the Northeast of the US; 98% of the patrons and staff will sing along.

There is beauty in the harmony as voices become one voice.

So, the next time you want to let go put on your favorite tune.

Then belt it out. 

Go for it!

Play that tune that reminds you of ‘YOUR ALIVE’.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

How’s My Vibe?

Conversations With Lyft Drivers.

A doctors visit prompted me to have 2 different encounters with two amazing Lyft drivers.  

I had been wondering that morning where my vibration was set.  The Universe was quick to respond.

My first interaction was with an amazing dreaded young man dressed in white.  Greeting me with a smile, his vibration was filled with positivity and kindness.

I was compelled to complement him on his glowing presence.

He countered me with a story of a previous passenger who also spoke of his white light.  Then adding that the passenger boosted that she was a psychic. 

That revelation gave him a soar taste.  

Yet, I come immediately enter his vehicle after her exit and recite the same message to him. 

I questioned him to see if he felt like the message was what he was seeking.

He had responded yes and no.

That he doesn’t believe that he is a very lucky person.

That even though he had a roof over his head, a job, was in good health, his life sucked because he did not have the diamonds around his neck.

Interesting.

I pressed to see where his mindset came from. 

The answer “because that is the only way a black man in America can be rich”.

His view on the world is based a material vibration.

Interesting.

He asked me if I also had the same belief.

My response was “I believe the point of my life is to feel good.  That is my priority.”

The driver was surprised by answer.  

I apparently answered a question that he had been pondering for a while.

That yes,  this is a kind Universe. 

The next Lyft driver conversation went another way.

Another delightful young black man picked me up.

His energy was so positive I smiled the entire trip.

We spoke about aliens and friendliness of South Florida.

I am asked a lot if I think people in Florida are nice.

People are kind to me, so my answer is always yes.

I told him I believe that ‘what you put out is what you receive’.

He liked that answer then went into a rant about how other people act.  

All the while, stating that he wanted to inspire others.

That perplexed me.

“How can you want to inspire others while judging how others are living their lives?”

That question made him pause.

I followed up with; has if ever occurred to you to focus on himself?

That by living his best life will be an inspiration to those around him?

He liked that question.

We continued with great conversation until he dropped me at my destination.

I was all a very interesting response to my question to the Universe that morning as to where my vibration was at.  

I chose to see others thru the eyes of my inner being.  Responding to with a vibraton of love not hate.  

Not trying to change others but speak from the inspiration of joy. 

We all can learn from each other when we respond in kindness.

It all starts by focusing on the well being of ourselves.

Now that is the meaning of self love.

I am grateful for my interactions with these strangers.  

After all, living a high vibrational life is the goal.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

There Is Peace In Minding Your Own Business

My favorite response to someone questioning my motives for not gossiping is ‘not my story to tell’.
Stops those yappy gums right in their tracks.

I have never felt the need to repeat other peoples’ news (especially bad news).
There are exceptions.
One being, if it is in your best interests to do so.
Also, if it will save someone from harm and so on.

Then there is spreading positive gossip.
Like telling your neighbors about the cool pop-up cupcake shop down the street from 4-8 pm tonight only.
That is the kind of story I like talking about.

There seems to be a pattern of communication that only involves telling other folks’ stories. Most of the telephone talk is the retelling of a negative event.
That’s what the local news is for.

Now, I understand that part of the reason for recanting another misfortune is to provide a cautionary tale.

Dare I ask?

As you give more attention to the negativity, aren’t you just inviting that kind of negativity into your own life?

Because you are.

The act of rehashing the story will slowly start to affect you. That story starts to have an emotional effect on you. Regardless, if you realize it or not.
An emotional attachment eventually forms.

Here’s the thing.

Just because it happened to them doesn’t mean it is going to happen to you.

So why carry it?

Why carry someone else’s burden?

There are a lot of humans out there that talk, just for the sake of talking.

Talking about negative things is not worth the conversation.

I have never been much of a big talker.

From a young age I adopted the attitude that if ‘I couldn’t contribute to the conversation in a positive way, stay silent.’

Plus, I am a writer, I listen for content.

Interesting things can be learned when you stay silent.

In the early days of my positive mindset shift, I often went silent for a couple of days.

No. I didn’t go on a retreat.

I was just silent where I was at.

Roommates were cautioned.

Not talking for a couple of days is very rewarding.

An experience of hearing the voice in your head clearly has been known to occur.

The appreciation of communication is elevated.

The love of oneself is heightened.

A shift of not willing to put negativity in your mind may erupt.

There are different ways to communicate.

Kindness in heart and mind, I find, to be the best way.

Take a 10-day detox from the negative gossip.

Share good stories instead.

Your life will become much lighter.

Trust me.

There is peace in mind your own business.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Has Covid Taught Us Nothing?

Hate is stupid.  Aliens are real. 

I don’t usually pay too much attention to the news but, since I design on Canva and write on Medium #stopasianhate is in my face.

Each time I see it, I shake my head at the utter nonsense of it.

Are there people out there hating on other people aka human against a human?

Aren’t we coming out of a pandemic that infected the ENTIRE WORLD?

Doesn’t anybody remember that the government finally acknowledged the presence of aliens?

And yes! 

 The government has alien technology.

The USA Government acknowledges the power of the brain and has been studying ‘outer body experiences’.

And hell ya!!!

Plant medicine has been validated.

Why can we go to space but not to the bottom of the ocean?…

Pardon me…

I was on a rant lol

The main focus is…

We are not alone in this UNIVERSE!!!

That should be the focus.

If you didn’t know, I am informing you now.

I am not going to quote or leave links to articles because you can Google your favorite publication and find information. I am a firm believer in doing your own research.

Aliens are real.

Contact has been made.

Seeds have been planted.

That’s what the focus should be on.

Not this petty stuff that keeps the focus on the not-so-good side of nonsense.

Hating on another human being is just stupid.

Another perspective is a key to happiness.

It is fun to understand why another person is laughing and smiling.  

To see their perspective on life.

Ever hear of cultural exchanges.

The movie Eurotrip is a testament to that.

Experience is tons of fun.

When you look for different things you will see the difference.

I live in South Florida.  I have found that a common question I always receive is: “Are people are nice here?

For context, I often make reference that I haven’t consistently lived in Florida.  While always affirming that I don’t intend on staying.  

Having this kind of mindset, many a South Florida community has been my home.

Each area has a different vibe and story.

That is why I am frequently asked ‘Do you find that people are nice?’

My answer is always the same.

“Yes”

With adding

It’s all about perspective, right?

“I believe that this is a kind Universe.”

“Do you?”

Taking that answer into consideration and if you agree; hate doesn’t have space in the equation. 

A douche bag comes in every color and gender.

So does a healer, a teacher, and a visionary. 

You will find and can find; the same personality traits in every race.

It’s true.

If  TV has taught us anything, it has taught us that.

Thanks, Netflix.

I wish for humans to remember that.  

Remember we are all ONE.

Our focus should be on remembering that there are aliens out there.

Frequently remind yourself of that.  Believe in the bigger perspective.

Free your mind and you won’t have time to hate.  

You will be too busy surfing in the wave of happiness in those high vibrations.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Your Environment Includes People

Smile To Raise Your Vibration.

A couple of pages from our ebook ‘Raise your vibration in 21 days’ coming soon…

Flip The Coin On The Perspective.

 

I listened to a Mind valley Podcast on my bike ride yesterday; the guest was Mary Morrissey. 

It was such a great conversation prompted me to share.

She recanted a story about a conversation she had at a younger age where the statement was ‘everything is made twice’ was introduced.

Goosebumps exploded on my arms as I biked in 80-degree weather.   

‘Everything is made twice’ echoed down deep into my core.

‘Thoughts become things’; so, for every thought, there is another thought to attract something else. 

Another decision.

A different outcome aligning with a different vision.

A positive vision.

A positive outcome.

The words hit me as a peddled on my usual route back to my apartment. 

I hastily, turned down a new street. 

The new street brought the thought:

“What if there are dogs?”

A sprinkle of fear trickles up to my spine. 

Immediately, I shook my head and arms.  

(I must have looked like a spaz.  Lol.)

“Caught ya,” I said.  “We don’t think that way anymore.”

If you met me today, you wouldn’t that I ever had a fear of dogs.  

I am the first person to go wandering off the path in the woods.  

But my parents were both not dog fans.  My mom is very afraid of dogs.  

That fear rubbed off on me for a long time.  

I would frequently affirm my fear with the story of watching my grandmother being attacked by a dog.

Reliving that moment with the eyes of my younger self over and over again with each time the story was told.

I broke that limited belief with the help of roommates and friends with amazing fur babies.  

The rest of my bike ride back to my apartment was pleasant. 

My subconscious is louder now.

I catch those fearful thoughts that no longer servers me.

Flip the coin.

Then respond. 

You know how they say there are 3 sides to every story; I believe that to be very true.

Fear can become a lie.

Truth is freedom.

The perspective is the story.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

The reason to keep a gratitude journal.

My friend and I were discussing the benefits of writing gratitude. 

My explanation was because writing reaches the subconscious.  

The act of putting words to paper (in my opinion) makes you focus more on what you are writing.  Plus, as you write it you feel it more.

Okay, that’s my theory. 

I had heard it when I first started out on my positive mindset shift.  

The act of writing what I was grateful for then turned into writing lists of ‘positive aspects’; suggested by Abraham Hicks.

I have been writing down what I am grateful for every morning for over a year, so I decided to test this theory and go back for a week to making lists in my head.

I noticed I wasn’t in my usual high vibe during that period.

When I went back to my morning gratitude routine, my smiles were more frequent.

Harvard actually did a study on this.

This is a quick sneak peak of that article:

‘Two psychologists, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami have done much of the research on gratitude. In one study, they asked all participants to write a few sentences each week, focusing on particular topics.

One group wrote about things they were grateful for that had occurred during the week. A second group wrote about daily irritations or things that had displeased them, and the third wrote about events that had affected them (with no emphasis on them being positive or negative). After 10 weeks, those who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to physicians than those who focused on sources of aggravation.

Another leading researcher in this field, Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman, a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, tested the impact of various positive psychology interventions on 411 people, each compared with a control assignment of writing about early memories. When their week’s assignment was to write and personally deliver a letter of gratitude to someone who had never been properly thanked for his or her kindness, participants immediately exhibited a huge increase in happiness scores. This impact was greater than that from any other intervention, with benefits lasting for a month.

Of course, studies such as this one cannot prove cause and effect. But most of the studies published on this topic support an association between gratitude and an individual’s well-being.’

(I left a link the article below.)

The takeaway.

Gratitude is good for your well-being.

Writing down what you are grateful for enhances the feeling.

So, ask yourself:

Is 5 minutes a day worth your well-being?

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier

MAY PEACE BE WITH YOU.

Ever decide to have a peaceful morning but the world doesn’t cooperate?

You open the window feel the breeze, sit down to meditate and the lawn guys arrive.

Or your upstairs neighbor became obsessed with HIT classes since quarantine and now jumps around promptly at 6 am and 10 pm every night. 

Including weekends.

How do you keep a positive vibration in those annoying situations?

Well, friends, I have found a way to turn down that annoyance button and guide you back to your peace.

This is the pattern interrupt that I have started to use to ease my annoyances. 

“May peace be with you.”

Those 5 words have brought me so much peace.

I have always believed what you put out you will get back.

I wish for peace. So, I put out peace.

It helps.

I found this awesome reaction during quarantine.

An injury had taken me back to Florida where I had been.

Having no time for my healing I thought it would be a good idea to have my own space.

In January 2020; I moved into the second floor of a 4-story building in a great community.

The first impression was noticing how quiet the building was; until lockdown.

I asked my apartment management team to ask my upstairs neighbor to respect the quiet time hours of 10 pm -10 am that the team invoked for quarantine.

The neighbor complied only during those hours of silence. 

I admired her dedication to exercising. 

Yet, it still bugged me. Now, for some context (I was and still am) recovering from injury. So, I was in pain a lot (less now, thankfully). And, well, the pain has a way of really cranking up that irritability vibe.

I wanted peace.

So that is what I gave.

I wanted to attract more peace into my life, so started sending more peace out into the world.

Every person I saw out my window; I whispered to them. “May peace be with you.”

I started doing this every time I heard my neighbor jumping around.

It works. 

My upstairs neighbor still does jump around all the time yet, it doesn’t bother me. 

My mindset has gone from being so annoyed to thinking; “that is just apartment living”.

Keep in mind, it did take me some time to get to this place.

The effort was worth it. 

I have noticed that I reside more in a peaceful state.

Feels good.

Play this little game the next time you start to get annoyed with someone or a situation.

Instead of letting the irritancy grow; wish peace upon that person. 

For if the world is a reflection of your thoughts, don’t you want a reflection of peace?

You can never change other people.

Yet, you can change your perception.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile. 

Do you argue for your limitations?

How you can have one small thing happen in the morning which lead to a series of events throughout the day that gave you evidence of your morning decision that it was going to be a bad day?

I know that was a mouthful but, before I was aware of the ‘law of attraction’ I am pretty sure I did this. 

Letting one small silly thing be the evidence of my entire day.  

So how do you change it?

Easily, don’t give momentum to it.

Let me give you an example. 

As I went thru the checkout line the other day, the cashier dropped a couple of items while bagging my groceries.

She sighed, stating she has been having a bad day because she had been dropping stuff all day.  

I replied with a smile:  ‘My best friend and I call those kind of days ‘oopsy’.

“Oopsy?”  She questioned with a smile.

“Ya” I continued with a chuckle.  “Can’t sweat the small stuff.”

The cashier believed and decided that she was going to have a bad day because she dropped something in the morning.  

She kept speaking about having a bad day to her co-workers and customers thus, giving momentum to her bad day.    

Until, a pattern interrupt up came along, in the way of silliness.

After I left.  She repeated our conversation with co-workers about my silly word for dropping things. When her shift ended she went home and repeated the story again to her family.  Taking note that after she used ‘oops’ she actually stopped dropping stuff. She made light of perceived negative situation. 

That work-day ended up being joyful. 

The cashier stopped giving momentum to her bad day.

I love the lesson here.  So many of us don’t even realize that we are aruguing for our limitations.

Have you ever said I would like to do that, BUT?

That is a classic example for limiting yourself. 

I was chatting to a friend the other day about an opportunity that was presented to him for this summer. 

This opportunity would bring him closer to his family and friends that he hasn’t seen since the pandamic. 

Which is what he desired. 

It was a an advancement in the his field.  More money! 

Yet, every time he told me a positive about this opprunity, a ‘BUT’ accompied the statement.

I never said a word during the conversation. I just let him talk. 

When he was done, he had talked himself out of accepting the opportunity. 

Why?

His ‘BUT’ argument was too strong.  

He had approached the situation in a mindset of his limited beliefs.

After he was done speaking, I asked him to indulge me with an exercise.

1.  Close his eyes, take some deep breaths and image himself in August (the job starts this May).
2.   Then describe his life to me if he took the job (with his eyes closed).

I asked him to give details one what his life would look like.  

How would he feel? 

 What would he see?  

I knew that he really wanted the change and after letting him give me all the reasons why not, I asked him to tap into end result of why yes.

He took the job.

Neville Goddard teaches to see things from the end result. 

Once I started seeing from the end result of saying yes and allowing the universe to bring me my desire. Well…lets just say, my cheeks hurt from smiling.

There is magic when you stop giving momentum to ‘can’t’; in your life. 

There is a feeling of power when you start adjusting the dial to the vibration of the unlimited you.

There are many ways one can argue for their limitations. 

I went out and purchased a bunch of courses that actually have nothing to do with my path.  

It was a program of ‘I am not good enough’ which manifested with ‘I am not smart enough.’

Yes, there are things that I would like to learn. 

However, learning out of fear? Is that good approach?

Probably not.

I never finished those purchased classes.

There are some things that are not in my wheel house.

I have learned to be okay with that.

The word ‘can’t’ isn’t a shackle to me.

I don’t give momentum to it.

Just because something isn’t in my wheelhouse is no longer perceived a weakness. 

I have learned to start doing.

To have trust in the vision of my life.  

To surf the unfolding.

Learning what I need to learn, the time I when I need to learn it.

To let go and stop arguing, for why I can’t.

Falling in love with why I can.

Just image what kind of magic will appear in your life if you stop using arguing for your limitations of your dreams. 

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile. 

Neville Goddard lessons have open my heart and my mind.

Photo by Meryl Katys on Pixabay

My morning and evening routines has been shifting lately. 

I attribute it to a Neville Goddard technique that I started a couple of weeks ago. 

Neville Goddard is a self-help author, mystic, and speaker who rose in the 1930s. 

His teachings are inspirations of going using imagination, and the importance of ONENESS with self. 

A manifestation method Neville Goddard spoke about is called the ‘Wish Fulfilled’.  

This technique involved becoming absorbed in the feeling of whatever you are trying to manifest. 

Like really get into the feeling.

That is what I thought I was doing before my introduction to Neville Goddard.

I would sit and visualize my ideal circumstances, thinking that I was completely engrossed in my wish.

I wasn’t.  I never truly dived deep into the feeling.

There was still a part of me that thought I didn’t deserve.

A deep limited belief that required some releasing.

I wasn’t still completely trusting in the process.

Grateful that I became aware of my resistance; I wondered how to change it.

My research leads me to a couple of Neville Goddard lectures and meditation videos (from various people).

My favorite is a bedtime meditation is the ‘Wish fulfilled’ plus a mantra of ‘it is done’.

Mornings, I have been waking up a ‘wish fulfilled’ meditation; joined by a ‘something wonderful is happening for me now.’

Those meditations are from Neville Goddard teachings.

The joy that I have been experiencing since Neville Goddard arrived in my experience has been such a major shift in my mindset.

My trust in my life experience and the adventure that is unfolding is exhilarating! 

There is an ease in my day as the affirmation ‘everything is working out for me’; consumes my mind; accompanied with ‘this is for my benefit’, has taught me to see circumstances in a new light.

All these methods and affirmations have given me a lot of insight to my levels of trust.

I can tell that from the way I feel as I engage in these strategies, if I deeply believe or not.

Am I whole heartedly trusting the process?

It takes dedication to put in the work to change your life. 

We live in a culture that instant gratification is the norm.  

Hence, why so many humans give up after quickly when life doesn’t magically shift in a big way when we desire it to.

(The more your awareness grows; the easier it is to recognize the shifts)

When you don’t trust that your purpose will lead you to the life you desire, there is work that needs to be done.

You must get your vessel ready.

That is the greatness of all these meditations and affirmations. 

It is all a way to get into that subconscious and reveal the programs that are no longer serving you.

So, you may ask:

• How do I gain that trust?
• How do I find my subconscious limited beliefs?

Those two questions are the acknowledgment.

Then decide to change them because you want a better life.

I can never tell you exactly how to change your life.

I am just a reporter of the law of attraction.

Only you can change your life.  

It all starts by going within.

Oneness with self is the key.

Abraham Hicks and Neville Goddard teach the same thing.

“You have to first feel it before it can manifest it.”

When you feel it to be true it will be true.

That is reverse for a lot of us who believe they first must see before they believe.

That is the biggest shift I have been making in 2021.

And I appreciate the journey as I do it.

That is the course I am navigating for myself.

Each day since that decision has been and continues to be jovial!

I have linked a couple of videos below that I have been using in my manifestation practice.

Check it out!!!

Shout out to Brian Scott, ‘The reality revolution’! His meditations are magic.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Starting the day with intent.

My alarm goes off at 6 am Monday thru Friday.  Saturday and Sunday, I sleep in

Henry, my handsome black cat, promptly jumps on which ever body part he can balance on, asserting his urgency for food at 6:01 am. 

On the weekends he has learned to wait to I open my eyes. 

 In full understanding that his taunts will not prevail.

I have taken to placing my hand on my heart for a few moments with breath to welcome in the day.

After that, I jump up open the blinds to witness the colors of the sunrise; before heading back to bed to meditate.

Next, I drink a glass of lemon water as I wake up with gratitude.

This year I started ending my gratitude practice with intent.

Intent about the state I will live the day in. 

Abraham Hicks says:

‘Each day is a new point of attraction.’

I take that statement to heart.

Each day when I rise, I decide the intent that I will receive the day with.

I love stating to the Universe that 

 “I AM READY FOR MAGIC!“

And journaling ‘I will be a positive vibration in the world.’

Every day I have intent to be a vessel of LOVE.

There is also my consistant intent to be a beacon of kindness, joy and laughter.

There is magic when you state your intentions each morning after a reset. 

A feeling of allowance bubbles to the surface.  

The law of attraction dictates that you attract what you feel.

With that belief haven’t you ever thought?

 “This is going to be a good day I can feel it.“

Then have like this epic day.

That thought is intention setting.

Let me share a story that may sway you to play the game of conscious daily intent for minimum 21 days. 

I love setting a intention to be a beacon of nonsense and laughter.

And that is exactly what I did one morning before I went for a walk with my best friend. 

The Universe heard me and delivered. 

On our stroll we happened upon two iguana’s getting it on.  

I mean what are the odds!

Right there in front of the town hall!!!

A couple of folks walked by and didn’t notice.

Even my best friend took a couple of steps and didn’t notice.

Oh! But I did.

I noticed.

I noticed because I had set the intention to see some nonsense.

And my reality is based on my beliefs.   

Photo by author

Thank you for letting me share. 

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Why I became best friends with my shadow.

I define shadow work as the awareness and navigation of the negative behaviors or unaligned emotions in One’s life.  

The more you accept the concept that your life is a reflection of your thoughts, the more you wish to know the reasons for your actions.

Life becomes very interesting once behavioral patterns are revealed. 

Negative feelings come from somewhere.

I wanted to know where mine came from.

As my practice of meditation increased; I learned to stay calm in moments of stress.

Especially, if it was someone being negative towards me.

In that kind of aggressive situation, I ask myself: 

 “Is this about me?”

9 times out of 10 if someone is blowing up at you.

It has nothing to do with you.

The second thing I ask myself is: 

“Am I responding or reacting?”

A great benefit of shadow work is you learn to respond not react.

Shadow work also comes into play hugely in motivation and self-worth.

A lot of our anxieties, fears and limited beliefs have the root of not enough.

When you don’t believe in yourself, you don’t strive for your purpose.

You don’t take that free boat ride to watch a perfect sunset.

As my perspective shifted, I was able to look back at how I am letting the past interfere with my present.

Embracing all of my negative emotions became a gateway to understanding my limited beliefs.

The core of most of my limited beliefs was feeling that ‘I was not good enough’.

That is how I discovered the affirmation of ‘I AM ENOUGH’

That statement is an inclusive statement of self-acceptance.

It is a belief that YOU are who you are meant to BE if you chose to believe it. 

I used that affirmation as a tool.

HACK:   Record yourself saying “I AM ENOUGH” for 3 minuets.  Listen to it in the morning when you wake up, a couple times during the day, and before bed for 21 days (with headphones).  If it feels good, continue for 30 days. There will be a shift.   The shift will be greater because it is your own voice.  This won’t cost you a thing and the value is high.  All of our cell phones have a voice recording capabilities, plus there are free apps. Use that. 

Try it.   The only thing you have to lose is a limited belief.

The key to YOUR happiness is inside of YOU.  

The more you desire the truth of your life, the more your chains will shine.  

 As you identify what you don’t want; what you do want will be brighter. 

Seeing thru a new lens of what you do want.

Using what you don’t want as inspiration.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

The clouds never last long.

‘How doing the shadow work added to my well-being.’

A lot of people think that believing in the law of attraction is stupid.  

That no one should be positive all the time.

I understand that.   I am not positive 100% of the time.  

My current meter is 99.9%.

That one percent is dedicated to my shadow work.  

Shadow work is a popular terminology in the law of attraction universe. 

 It is what it sounds like.  

Working on things in our shadow selves. 

The darker side. 

There will always be things that will scare us.  

How you navigate and receive that fear is a factor of working with ONE’s shadow self.

There will always be darkness. 

Understanding our own darkness is a game changer.

I give credit to meditation and journaling for the awareness of my thoughts.

Especially, when it comes to circumstances in my life that I have processed as hurt. 

It was a relief to finally hear my reasoning for the hurt I still carried.  

When I tie a present emotion to a past experience; I have learned to debunk it. 

I feel it, identify it, in order to respond based on the events of the present not the past.  

That is why I am in a good mood a majority of the time. 

I do that shadow work.

I am always going to have to do the shadow work.  

It is just a part of my journey.

There is power when you are the conductor of your emotions.

Being responsible of Your own universe is euphoria.  

I like to spend Sundays with the intent to consciously appreciating everything.

The more I did this; the more I noticed self-sabotaging habits aka shadow behaviors.

Allowing me to change them because I allowed my self to understand them.

A key to allowing your happiness is just that ‘allowing’.   

A majority of people don’t go after their dreams because they don’t truly believe in themselves.

That is why doing the shadow work is an asset to your reality. 

Exposing the truth of your programming is a very freeing feeling.

Unhappiness can be sign of growth.  

Dissatisfaction could possibly be a song of expansion.  

Give yourself permission to grow.

Becoming aligned with ONEself and your higher SELF is the priority.

Alignment gives motivation to uncovering those fearful, hurt events lingering in the subconscious mind. 

“Unless you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl Jung

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be Well. Smile. 

Sometimes you just gotta laugh.

I am sitting in my chair barely able to move 2 days ‘over did it’ while exercising. 

 Muscle memory is real folks!

 I was having so much fun that; my body went back to the 2015. 

My 2021 body needs multiple days recovery time. 

A couple of months ago I would be beating myself up.

Mentally bullying myself to exercise my way thru the pain.

Or let myself be swallowed up by the ache.

Not today.  

Today, I am perfectly fine to sit on the couch; with intermit stretching sessions and a whole lota ice.  

Plus, a couple of bananas.

My fingers are even sore.

I was out of coffee this morning and needed to walk to Publix.  A grocery store a couple blocks away. 

The sky was beautiful, my calves are aching but I still choose a smile as I strolled at a turtle’s pace to my destination. 

After a polite conversation with the cashier; I notice the heaviness of my bag. 

Shopping on an empty stomach has strikes again. 

I debated calling an Uber. 

Quickly came to my senses.

Changed the playlist on my Iphone and hobbled home.

During this whole situation, even when my foot got stuck in the train track, I did nothing but laugh.

This is nothing but ‘situation comedy’ to me. 

“Life is supposed to be fun.” – Abraham Hicks

Situation comedy (to me) is ‘when I am present to the comedy in the moment.’  

There are three ways to approach situations.

You can see things as a positive or a negative.

Or nothing at all.

You gotta laugh at the comedy in your life so you attract more to laugh at.

It’s so easy to get grumpy over small things.  

Or lash out because you are not feeling your best. 

I rather laugh.

And…

I will tell people the story with a lot of chuckles.

There are frequent times that I shake my head at the nonsense of it all, haphazardly getting up from the couch.

I appreciate the humor of my sore body situation.

I am not afraid to laugh with myself.

I often imagine my life as a tv sitcom.  

Especially when I need give a bit of lightness to my day.

Lesson learned:

 ‘I am never going to solve a problem with the same energy I noticed it in.’

That’s a little secret to switch the perspective in moments of high stress.

A lot of comedy does come from pain.  

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.  

A thought about hypnosis.

A wellness check with my doctor took an interesting turn the other day.  

He had noticed my positive attitude and wondered how I maintained a positive mindset while dealing with pain.

My response was that “your mindset has a huge impact on your recovery.”

The second statement out of my mouth was a ‘shout out’ to being hypnotized.

I understood that I needed a kick start to release a limited belief.  

That limited belief was lack of self- esteem.

This was back in 2009. 

After that hypnosis session; I left to the East Coast to go work at a dude ranch in the Colorado Rookies.

My family thought I was crazy.  I knew that it was the right move. 

I had always saw myself as a traveler, yet I was always nervous about traveling alone.

I feel that being hypnotized gave me an extra push to go after the life I wanted.

There is a stigma attached to hypnotism.  

Most people say that it takes away your free will. 

News flash…you can’t be hypnotized unless you want to.

Also, when you ‘zone out’ you are actually in a self-hypnosis state.  

I looked at my hypnosis session as a tool. 

A tool to give me a kick in the butt.

I need someone to guide me to my subconcious programming that I desired to release. 

There is no magic cure that instantly changes your life.  

You are going to have to put some effort in.

The work you put in will be rewarded.

A guided hypnosis season can be a gateway to path of the life you desire to manifest.  

I actually had forgotten about my hypnosis session until that conversation with my doctor.

Looking back, I can attribute the starting line of my journey to a positive mindset with that event.

That was the fire to start living the life I wanted to live.

That fire still roars on today.

I am an advocate for trying new things and finding new ways of shifting the perspective.  

If you are feeling kinda stuck on how to approach a limited belief; why not give hypnosis a try?

I still dabble from time to time with different videos on YouTube.com for fun.  

I find that it is a good way to check out if a hypnosis session is a good fit before  seeking out a professional.

Plus, there are a couple of Podcast that have hypnosis sessions.

Loving yourself is coinsides with in investing in yourself.

An open mind will come from a willingness to embrace the unknown.  

Hypnosis is nothing to fear unless you fear your own mind.

A positive mindset is a decision to be made every sunrise.

What decision do you make every morning when the light hits your eyes?

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

Can procrastination actually be regarded as a positive?

The questions that opened a new perspective regarding the emotion of procrastination for me.  

Lunch with my best friend took an interesting turn the other day as we dived into a conversation about procrastination.

She had made a comment of how bad of a procrastinator she is.   

That comment lead me to ask her if she ever considered exploring the reason for her procrastination?

She never has. 

Procrastination to her, is a fault. 

Fault can also be interpered as a negative.

With that in mind.

Logic states there must be a positive in it somewhere. 

So..

In the spirit of ‘personal development’ I would like to share some questions that helped me shift the perspective on procrastination and the answers that I vibed with. 

When I starting tuning into my procrastination behavior the first reflection question I asked was:

Why am I really procrastinating? 

 (It falls in the same vibe of why I am really getting angry?)

I meditated with the intent understanding the truth of my procrastination.

Asking myself the question “why am I really procrastinating?”; as I drifted off to sleep. 

I also focused journaled for a couple of days. 

Really basking in the presence of that question.

Then I let it go.

An answer that surfaced was and still surfaces is,

“It’s not the right time.”

I believe in aligned action.

I also believe in micro actions to gain momentum.  

Another nugget….

If you are procrastinating so much that strong negative feelings consume you, it may be a good idea that you stop and walk away.

Creating or acting out of frustration is never the answer.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” -Albert Einstein 

I was a big procrastinator when it came to writing. 

It over shadowed my love for it.  

Every teacher in every grade of my scholastic life loved my poems and stories.

There was validation there.

Yet, subconsciously I never thought I could be a successful writer.

I eventually did shadow work and sorted that limited belief.

Not saying my procrastination magically went away. 

 Not saying that at all.

After comprehending the root of my programming, the navigation of procrastination became lighter.

When a ‘hesitation mentality’ comes out play, I choose to meditate with the pondering thought:

 “What is really holding me back?”

*”I like to incorporate the word ‘really’ a lot because it triggers me to go beyond the surface reasons of procrastination and address the root. Incorporating a trigger word to go deeper is a tool.”

My major shift came when I heard these answers:

“You are not in alignment.” 

“This action is not really aligned with your ultimate goal.” 

The more you are in tune with yourself, the less likely you are to take action when it doesn’t add value to your life. 

The whip cream, cherry on top question is:  

“Is self-doubt a factor?”

If you don’t believe in yourself; you are not going to try and obtain a goal that you subconsciously do not believe you can achieve.

Self-belief also intertwines with worthiness.

If you don’t feel worthy; you won’t strive for what you really want.  

Also, yes, this example can be related to procrastination about taking out the trash.   

A human whom believes in themselves will believe that they deserve a clean house.  

A basic rule of having a nice house is not to have smelly trash.  

A clean house links to good health.

Finally, …

Procrastination can be that sign that whatever you are hesitating to do isn’t meant to be.

Every beautiful human is born to have a unique experience.

Every beautiful human has the right to change their dream.

Once you start asking the question,

“Why am I procrastinating?”

The answer will differ from mine.

Even if wording of the question is different, the intent leads us a oneness path that we all can claim.

Turning inward is a beautiful way to wake up to the reality you have created for yourself.  

“You attract who you are.”  

Always remember and never forget…

The subconscious mind has many keys.  

Your skeleton key is your emotions.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

Want to know the secret answer to all your problems?

Bold statement I made with that headline, right?

Keep reading and let me present to you a different way to approach manifestations.

Ready?

The secret is problems are part of the human experience.

Everyone has problems.

That’s it.  

Most of us try and manifest things because we think that ‘thing’ will make all of our problems go away.

We have been looking at it all wrong.

Problems (or contrast as I like to call it) is a fact of life for every single human being on this earth.

Problems don’t only target folks who earn less than a $100,000.00 a year.  

Rich folks have problems too.  

Now that we have established; when intending to manifest something we can leave out the notion that it will solve all of our problems.

Shift the intention to the end result.  

Let the intended manifestation be a tool to your desire.

A great example of switching the mindset around manifestations are lotto winners.

There are plenty of lotto winners who go broke after a few years. 

Why?

The most common reason is because they have no idea what to do when that big windfall happens.

The winner goes collects the money and ends up burning right through it because they still have the same mindset of a person who never had that much money before.  

“Money doesn’t change who you are; it magnifies who you really are.”- Farrah Gray 

I am preparing myself now for my intended manifestation.

Taking action ‘NOW’ to be ready for desire.

This mental shift happened because I tossed out that notion that a certain manifestation will make all my problems go away.

An easy way to make this shift is to ask yourself during the day.

“If I had a million dollars what I be doing?

What would it feel like?”

I constantly ask myself those questions.

Those questions shifts the perspective to ‘how to keep the money’ not how to spend it’.

Playing this game allows you focus on how you want your life to be.

What does your happiness look like to you?

If you had a million dollars what type of bank account would you have?

Would you invest it?

What are the personal taxes would you have to pay every year?

How can this money enhance what you really want to do?

Those questions also motivates you into taking action.

To prepare yourself for the life you want.

Once again, I desire to be a successful writer, so even if I had a million dollars I would still be writing.

That is why I have started writing on Medium.com sites and created a blog.

My other desire intention is to have a successful t-shirt brand to accompany my blog.

Even if I had a million dollars, I would still have to design the t-shirts.  

I have found amazing websites that help you do that very thing.

I also need a company that manufactures t-shirts.  

With some easy researching I found print on demand websites that can use get the ball rolling NOW.

I am taking small action steps to bring me closer to my dream.

I am showing myself and the Universe that I believe in my desired outcome.

Working on my dream NOW is allowing my money manifestations to flow quickly and easily into my reality.

Are you picking up what I am putting down?

Once it resolves in you that there is always going to be problems, you can shift the focus to what you really want.

Start to acquire the tools to navigate problems not let them overwhelm you.

That’s it.

There are always going to be problems, rich or poor.

How you approach them determines the quality of your life. 

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

The magic of mindfulness.

Your thoughts determine your well-being.

Mindfulness!  Mindfulness! Mindfulness!

That word is everywhere, but what exactly does it mean?

A quick Google search brings up a lot of answers.  

I liked this answer:

“A mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.”

Interesting right? 

To me that definition complies with meditation.

However, I believe that there is so much more to mindfulness.

I define mindfulness as being aware of what exactly you are focusing on.  

 “What you are thinking about?”

Those are some of the first questions I wanted to answer when I started my mindfulness practice.

On average humans think about 50 thoughts per hour.  

That’s a lot. 

Most of those thoughts are subconscious.  

Some of those thoughts are of the past.

Some thoughts are of the future.

A majority of those thoughts are your programing.  (That’s for later post.)

Regardless, of what the thoughts are, you are having them consciously or subconsciously. 

Need more evidence?

Since Covid we all have been taking more walks.

Have you noticed that you are taking the same route?  

Have you developed a routine?

 (Aka a subconscious behavior stemmed from a conscious habit.) 

You keep walking this path because it is pleasurable to you consciously and subconsciously.  

The mind controls the body and the body moves.  

I bet unless, you make a conscious effort to walk down another street; you won’t do it. 

CHALLENGE! 

Just go out walking without any conscious thought about where you are going. Just relax and walk. 

What route did you take?

Is the same one you have been taking?

Another good example (the internet’s favorite example) is driving to work.  

Ever just end up at work and don’t remember getting there?  

Happens to everyone.

That is an example of mindfulness and meditation.  

Your subconscious mind takes over and gets you to work by following the habitual route. While you just zone out.

My father actually taught me this mediative act.  

He would encourage me to go for a long drive to just chill and relax when frustration set in.  It worked.

So, does running for me. 

Taking a jog propels me to go inward to listen to my body about how hard I can push it that day.  

Running causes, me to be in the present moment.

The present moment is not where most of us are focused. 

The NOW is the mindfulness we all should want to achieve.

There are different aspects of the practice of mindfulness that I think can be interjected into the every day.

Yes, meditation is the best way. 

Although, a lot of us do not have 15 minuets to sit in a quiet place during the day.

(That’s why a morning routine of meditation is a great way to start the day.)

We all use the restroom at some point.  

I drink a ton of water, so I see my commode a lot. 

Every single time I go use to loo I take one deep breath and appreciate 5 things in my day.

It’s a quick way to change my state to more positivity.

One of the important aspects of mindfulness is the awareness of feeling.

“Your emotions are your guidance system.” – Abraham Hicks

Your feelings, your emotions; are there for a reason.  

Negative emotion is leading you away from your purpose.  

If there is negative emotion, pause, take a couple of breaths and ask yourself why is this emotion surfacing?  

“What am I thinking about?”

Sometimes negative emotion has nothing to do with the current situation.  

It is a past situation or programming that is affecting the NOW?

Being able to pause and grasp the situation from a ‘NOW’ perspective really does change the game.  

It will change your life.

Journaling is a perfect way to begin to see what exactly is going on in your mind. 

I also highly recommend replaying different conversations you had during the day.  

The story you tell is the movie of your life.

How you interact with others, the words you use, is the way subconsciously, you see yourself. 

Humans have realized that living in a flight or fight state of mind is not the way. 

Life is about the journey not the amplification of fear.

We are vibrational beings.

Understanding exactly what is going on ‘within’ is the key to your reality.

Wish to change your life?

First you have to be mindful of the thoughts you are thinking.

The way to be mindful of your thoughts all starts with you becoming aware of YOU. 

Where you are in the present moment? 

What is around you?

What sensations are you feeling?

What is around you and how do you feel about it?

It all starts with a decision.

A decision and desire to connect with the truth of YOU. 

YOUR emotions. 

The content of your reality.  

You are the creator of your happiness.

Once that resonates with you.  

The truth of your own ‘mindfulness’ will be your motivator.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile. 

Can a free Tony Robbins challenge really add value?

I did Tony’s Robbins 5-day free challenge last week and my mind is blown. 

 I mean… yes, I have heard that his events have done tremendous transformations.

He coaches Serena Williams, Michael Jordon and even Oprah has gone to his events. 

 But, I free challenge… let’s just say my expectations were not very high. 

I have done a couple of free challenges since Covid and while some added a bit of value to my life, I always felt that the sales pitch was the main priority. 

The opposite can be said about ‘Tony Robbins, 5-day challenge, New You/New World.’

Granted there was a sales pitch, but a sales pitch for an epic event. 

I learned so much from these past five days that my intent is to manifest a ticket to his event in March.  For if I am feeling enlighten from only a fraction of the March event time frame.  I can only imagine the break thru I will have if I attend.

That challenge addressed more than just the mindset.  It gave focus to the entirety of YOU.   Meaning that there was physical movement, spiritual focus, and the guidance of going within.

As a entreupeur, writer, creator; it is up to me to motivate my own self.  The fire has to come within.  Understanding what kindling you need to make that fire to cultivate that burning desire of one’s purpose is something Tony Robbins provides.

Perhaps, that is why I gravitated to Tony Robbins.  

Mr. Robbins does not really preach the law of attraction, I don’t think he classifies himself in that realm.  Yet, his teachings really do align with it.  

The similaries in his strategies and Russel Branson’s strategies form a pattern to me.  The way they both help people shape their mind for success really is in the best interest of others.  

I can see why they are leaders in their industries.   

Many like to shun the wealthy, often forgetting that they were once in the very same shoes you are in today.  

However, a true secret is to listen to the story of those who paved the way, for there is knowledge there. 

Success does leave footprints.   

Here are 10 quotes from the ‘5 days of a FREE challenge with Tony Robbins’.

Now, this is just a taste of value this challenge gave to me.  Quotes that I hope will resonate with you.

1.  “Life is happening FOR me not TO me.”
2.  “The quality my life is the quality of my emotions.”
3.  “The biggest problem you have is believing that you shouldn’t have any problems.”
4. “Your emotional state determines your story.”
5. “The most powerful invisible force in the world is human emotion.”
6. “80% of wealth is psychology.  20% is mechanics.”
7. “Are you in the right movie?”
8. “Your reactions shape your life.”
9. “The words you attach to your experience become your experience bio-chemically.”
10. “Divorce your limitations.”

That was just a sample of the knowledge that was shared during these past 5 days.  (There was even a bonus day with mediation and nutrition.)

I feel blessed that I was able to do this free event.  

It really gave me an opportunity to go within and grow.  

To focus the movie, that I am the star in.  

My intent with this post is to encourage others to perhaps try these free challenges (especially from the Tony Robbins and Russel Brands of the world); and not be intimidated by their success.

Many successful people really do want others to be successful. 

Infact, service to others is really what a majority of successful people strive to do. 

Invest in yourself.

This is a kind world. It is your choice to believe that.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

20 motivation quotes for a positive mind shift.

I love motivational and inspirational quotes. 

Especially those words that make you pause.  

There is also that glorious feeling when it clicks that the sentence you just heard was a message for you. 

My all time favorite quote is the one that; ignites that fire and you can’t help but get moving.

And for that reason, I have complied 20 motivational, kick-ass, ‘things that make me go hmmm’; quotes for your reading pleasure.

Enjoy. 

1. “You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.” –Michael Jordon

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2. “Once I made a decision, I never thought about it again.” –Michael Jordon

3. “When everything is going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” -Henry Ford

4. “Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20^th.” –Julie Andrews

5. “Stop chasing the money and start chasing the passion.” -Tony Hsieh

6. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” -Wayne Gretzy

7. “Good is not good when better is expected.” -Vin Scully

8. “Excellence is not a singular act but a habit. You are what you do repeatedly.” – Shaquille O’Neal

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9. “There are two primary choices in life, to accept conditions as they exist or accept the responsibility for changing them.” -Denis Waitley

10. “Build your own dreams or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” -Farrah Gray

11. “Don’t count the days, make the days count.” -Muhammed Ali

12. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” -Theodore Roosevelt

13. “Be happy in anticipation of what’s coming.” -Abraham Hicks

14. “Be remember…YOU are free.” –bekindbewellsmile.com

15. “Fall 7 times, stand up 8.” –Japanese Proverb

16. “It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power.” -Robert T. Kiyosaki

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17. “Look forward to where you want to be and spend no time complaining where you are.” –Abraham Hicks

18. “Keep you mind fixed on what you want in life, not on what you don’t.” –Napoleon Hill

19. “Success is a state of mind.  If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.” –Joyce Brothers

20. “As you think thoughts that feel good to you, you will be in harmony with who you really are.”  -Abraham Hicks

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Emotions are your guidance system.

Your mood is controlled by your emotions.

Are you aware that your mood is controlled by emotions?

Of course, everyone is aware of that fact.  

You know that if you’re in a bad mood it is most likely because you are having a negative thought.

There is a catch.  You have to be aware that you are having a negative thought.

The key to that is a conscious awareness of the dominate thoughts in your head.

Now okay, we all know that once you get busy you won’t be able to monitor all the thoughts in your head all day.  

However, the emotions that is felt, is the guidance system you can use to stay in touch with your inner being.

Negative emotions are indicator of your alignment with your higher self.

The further away you are moving from inner being; the more you will feel negative emotions.

That is the sign.

Heed it.  

Use it.

Take a moment.

Take time to pause.

While working as a bartender, my fellow co-workers would take smoke breaks.  

I took meditation breaks.

These were especially welcoming when I started to feel overwhelmed or annoyed while working.  A state I did not want to stay in. 

While co-workers smoked; I took a few minutes to silence my mind.  

I used my breaks to remind myself of the positive aspects of that day.

This helped me so much because, for I had been developing a short fuse.  

I was able to narrow down the truth of my annoyance which was because I had undiagnosed an injury.

My bad mood was because of the discomfort I was feeling.  

I became grateful for that bad mood, that negative emotion; I was able to get help before it got too serious.  

“Every morning is a new point of attraction” – Abraham Hicks.

A good morning routine is paramount.

As soon as I started taking time to meditation and make my intentions for the day.  

My life became magical.

I decided to have a good day and I did.

I am not saying that there isn’t contrast.

 I adopted a mindset that contrast is a lesson.

An opportunity to learn and grow.

That helps to keep things into perspective.

Bad moods happen.

We shouldn’t be scared of them.

I engage these moods differently now.

I go inward to find out I am truly thinking about.

You are the creator of your reality. You attract what you think about.  

The emotions you feel are your guidance system.  

The truth of your life can only be found inside of YOU.

Thank you for letting me share.

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2021 The Age of Aquarius.

After the great conjunction that took place on December 21, 2020; many has predicted that there will be an energy shift on Earth.  

The Age of Aquarius.

A more positive energy has engulfed the earth.

Some are calling it 5G.  

Whatever the name for is I am excited and am embracing it. 

The age of Aquarius is a time for togetherness. 

Learning about our higher selves.

There is evidence of that philosophy.  

Things that were once dismissed as some hippie nonsense has gone mainstream.

The best example I can give is meditation.

It is all about meditation these days.

So many people are waking up.

Which is leading Earth into a higher vibration.

If you are wondering what I mean by ‘awake up’ it means going within.

To silence the mind.

To really get to know the real you.

The first step is listening to your thoughts.  

Truly listening to your thoughts tunes you into your programing.  

After identifying your programs, you become the creator of your reality.

For you will decide what really serves you and what does not.

Life becomes magical the higher your vibration rises.

This new age of Aquarius is also said to bring a sense of togetherness.

Oneness.

My favorite movie for the holidays is Love Actually.  

The opening monologue Hugh Grant’s character says: 

“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere.“

I feel that that is the perspective a lot of folks are going to have moving forward.

To focus on the good and stop elevating the bad.

A new general opinion will be fueled with a mindset of kindness and oneness.

The shift is very evident to me.  Each day I am greeted with smiles from my neighbors. There is always a cheerful nod as I pass a stranger on the street.

Yes, there is chaos as the transition is happening.

But, we must all remember that things have to be broken to in order to grow.

The age of Aquarius is like that catchy song that makes you want to dance in the wind.

A feeling of freedom.

A movement of love.

A higher vibrational state were your manifestations are a reflection of your true desires.

I am excited to be a part of this new beautiful world as it unfolds. 

Are you?

Thanks for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile. 

Did you know that there is a sequel to ‘The Secret’ movie?

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The movie ‘The Secret’ came out about 14 years ago.

It was a groundbreaking piece of knowledge introducing us to ‘the law of attraction’.

The movie and the book were an instant success.

Even the inevitable backlash didn’t curve the message from anchoring into pop culture history.

My mother was the first person to introduce me to the book ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Bryne.

I believe she saw it on The Oprah Winfrey Show like millions of others.

She had a feeling I would be interested in it. 

And right she was! (Just look at me know mom!)

Yet after reading it, I could never shake that I was missing something.

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Fast forwar , I am going through one of the toughest chapters in my life and that book surfaces again.

It was sitting on the coffee table at the first Airbnb I rented at the start of my walkabout in Europe.

It came back to me when I desperately needed a change of perspective.

The arrival of the book was a calling that I needed to dive deeper into the law of attraction again.

That feeling of there is ‘more to life’ was back in a big way.

And I went swimming.

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If there is even the smallest inkling in your mind that there is more to your life.

I strongly recommend you watch the movie ‘The Secret’; accompanied by ‘Beyond the Secret- The Great Awakening.

The Secret will open your eyes and mind to ‘what’.

Beyond the Secret answers the question of ‘how’.

The original movie is an introduction to the laws of the universe.

The sequel is the mechanics behind it.

The mechanics of your inner self.

The 2020 film also brings to light the main component that perhaps was overlooked in the first. 

The ‘law of attraction’ has the word ‘action’ in it.

Taking the correct action then becomes the next answer to explore.

“Nothing happens until you are ready.” -John Sachtouras 

This documentary style film gives you the tools by using very creatable influences who back up the concept of going inward. 

The film also touchs on the science of wellness.

 With much emphasis on the importance of alignment.

Indulgance of the gift of understanding self.

All while bringing in supportive evidence with testimonials of those who are using the law of attraction to live their dream lives.

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I can write a lot more and go in-depth about what the movie explains but I won’t.

Every persons’ journey is so specific to that person.

Plus, each perspective is it’s own.

I wouldn’t want to spoil another’s lesson by sharing all of the movie’s wisdom.

I will leave you with this.

Watch it.

Watch it to the very end. 

The final minuets are magic.

Even if you don’t believe in the law of attraction.

There is some good information there to really in rich your life.

With the world telling us to stay home more this winter; why not take that advice to go in (literally) and take a peek of what is really going on inside.

Inside of your head and body.

Check in on your vibration.

‘How you feel on the inside will be revealed on the outside.’ -Carl Harvey

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

How a solo traveling brought me back to me.

2019 was very interesting to me.

I had finally recovered from injuries from a car accident.  My roommate and best friend had decided to settle down and buy a house. 

I wasn’t there yet.

I had some decisions to make about my future; which was hazy.  

The accident pushed me off a trajectory that I thought was the key to happiness.

A door slammed shut.

This wasn’t ideal for me; as I am in my 40s.  My late 40s.  

Now it seemed that I must change the title of my story.

And I wondered why?

My mental state was in conflict about the niceness of the Universe we live in.

My confidence was shook.

Clarity seemed to be eluding me.

I ran to my older sister.

My sister lives in France.  Nantes to be exact.  She has been living there for over 25 years.  

The supportive loving force that is my sister is the presence I craved as I navigated my way back to myself.

Wanting to align with me, I decided to travel alone to places where nobody knows me.  

That is why I got my feet wet with Italy, Greece, and Spain.

My intent is to see every country in this world.

This wasn’t the first time I traveled solo. I went to Nicaragua.  I got robbed and ran back to my mom’s house.  So, I don’t count that.  

That experience I think is why I played it safe by heading to countries very close to France and my sister.

The first habit I implement while solo traveling is to look for people like me. 

Perhaps another American if you are American.  Another woman solo traveler, etc.

Or it could just be something I was taught by my father.  I love to go hiking. In the woods.  Alone.  He told me that “As I pass people on the path say hello to maybe one or two. Let them notice you.  It will come in handy if an emergency arises.”

Reminding me that when you are alone you are in charge of your own safety.  

There is something so impowering about having to rely solely on yourself. 

Traveling solo gave me that power back.

It was up to me to get my overpacked, extra-large, suitcase up those escalator stairs in make a train.  Needless to say, I left the USA with suitcases (large and small) and a backpack.  I came back with a backpack and carryon.

You learn to understand what you want and what you actually need.

Confidence is found in that realization.

Being alone gives you time to see how strong you are. 

I went to places where I didn’t speak the language and took myself out on dates.

I fell in love with myself again.

I wasn’t lonely because I made friends. 

Strangers who gravitated to each other and had a great experience.

Solo travel allowed me to see myself and understand that I am in fact in charge of my own experience.

And yes.

The Universe is kind. 

That experience really gave me reflection when the pandemic hit, and the lock down began. As luck would have it; I had just moved into an apartment (thankfully) near my best friend. 

I am aligned with myself and my needs.  

So, when I need some human interaction, I am fortunate enough to live in Wilton Manors, FL.  

A community that is full of great people who always wear a smile.

A friendly place where if you are walking down the street and there is a giant iguana up ahead someone coming from that way will give you the heads up.

I am blessed because that experience of finding and falling in love with myself made lockdown a lot lighter.

I understand that the most important relationship is with yourself.  

For what you subconsciously believe your life should look like; is what your life looks like.  

That is why each day when the light first hits my eyes, I close them.  

I go inside to say good morning, I love you, today is going to be a magical day. 

I go inside to listen and align.

For it is all about you how you feel all the time.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” -Aristotle

Thank you for letting me share.

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The future out loud.

My story of how the simple act of announcing my future brought me joy and confidence.

Yesterday was an awesome day.  A cold front has brought lower temperatures to South Florida giving me more reason to go outside.  It wasn’t just the beautiful weather that sparks joy in my heart.  Nope.  

My best friend and I did something we haven’t done in months.  

Talk a walk.

We walked over the 17^th street bridge in Fort Lauderdale. 

Feeling giddy and grateful for such a beautiful day. 

Don’t get me wrong my bestie and I hang out all the time.  She is the only one besides my cat Henry and the apartment maintence team that I have been in my home since the pandemic.

Mostly our excisions have been just grabbing a bit to eat at a local (uncrowded) restaurant.

I am healing from an injury and haven’t been able walk far. 

Now! I am getting tons better and walking in the sunshine is perfect exercise!

As we strolled to the top of the bridge then stopped to watch the boats cruise  up and down the intercoastal.

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I brought up the fact that my son is now 30 and I wish for a place to of my own.  

I elaborated in great detail exact dwelling I desired and why.

It felt so good to say it out loud.  Like it made it real. 

After healing from my accident; I felt a little lost. 

I was released to go back to a job that I knew I couldn’t do anymore.

I got certified for a job that I did not want.

With no direction in my life I went to Europe.  

Wandering around France, Italy, Spain and Greece hoping for a ‘Eat, love, Pray’ scenario would happen.  It didn’t.

I ran out of money and had to live on my son’s couch for 2 weeks until I landed employment.

That was a year and a half ago.  

Now, I am walking over a beautiful bridge with my best friend talking to about the future. 

Speaking my truth with confidence because I know things happen for a reason and the Universe always has my back.

At this moment I have absolutely no idea how I am going to buy this place.  And that’s okay.

I just know it is going to happen.  

I possess unweathering faith.

That’s why it felt so good to say it.

Especially, with someone who supports you.

Law of attraction is really teaching me to zoom in to what I want to create.  

To filter in the life, I am destined to live.  

Okay, you must be like seriously you never thought about your future before. 

The answer is yes.  I have.  I always knew that traveling is part of who I am.  So, I worked to fund my travels not save for a future.

Now, I am getting older and my mindset is different.  

As soon as I fell in love with myself.  I started to dream bigger.  Not just looking forward 5 years.  

With many possible outcomes to a future. Why not go for the one you really want? 

Talking with my best friend about my future was the step I felt I needed to take for my journey.

To share the vision of my future happiness with someone I trusted felt good to me.

I am always reading my goal out loud to myself.  

Announcing my attentions to the Universe often.

Still, I found magic in sharing my dream with my bestie. 

As I voiced the words of my desire, I felt joy and gratitude vibrate throughout my body. 

There was lightness in my steps for the rest of the walk. 

Another limited belief has been released.

I am grateful for that moment with my best friend.

Grateful for that moment that I was aware enough of the shift.

I wish for everyone to have that experience.  

That experience of total belief in oneself. 

For when you finally feel it…the sky is not the limit anymore.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

10 Gratitude Quotes for Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.  

One this grateful day we thought it would be cool to share some awesome gratitude quotes that are relatable and makes us feel groovy.

• “Thanksgiving man.  Not a good day to be my pants.” – Kevin James

• “I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the new.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

• “Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” –Charles Dickens

• “Thanksgiving Day is a good day to recommit our energies to giving thanks and just giving.”  –Amy Grant

• “The thankful receiver bears a plentiful harvest.”  –William Blake

• “Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy.  They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”  – Marcel Proust

• “When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around.” –Willie Nelson

• “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough and more.” –Melody Beattie

• “Appreciation is a wonderful thing it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”  –Voltaire

• “Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot.” –Hansa Proverb

Thank you for letting us share!

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Making micro moves might just be the answer.

If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. – Martin Luther King Jr

Let’s chat about micro moves.
I thought it was stupid when I first heard about it simply because I want things to hurry up in happen.

But thank goodness the law of attraction does not manifest thoughts instantly.

I would have a whole lot of unicorns mulling about my apartment lol.

This is the part when ‘it’s all about the journey’ comes into play.

You see there is a huge amount of satisfaction in accomplishing something AND being present enough to witness your manifestation.

Taking small steps will add up to big ones.

I adopted my cat Henry from a local shelter.

He was so scared when the aid brought him into the room to meet me.

Henry stood out because all the other cats I had visited with were very rambunctious.

My best friend was with me at the time and noticed how much he was shaking.

She immediately told me she thought he needed to be adopted.

Henry hid underneath my bed for the first 24 hours when I brought him home.
Only coming out when I went to bed.

As the days and weeks rolled by, I loved watching Henry become comfortable with his new surroundings.

I was especially interested on the approach Henry took when it came time to explore the patio.

The first patio experience for Henry was in my arms.

The second time I put him down on the patio floor.

He immediately ran back inside.

Finally, I just sat outside and left the door cracked for him.

Letting him slowly explore the patio on his own (weirdly meowing as he moved about).

Now.
I can open the patio door and let him go out on his own.

It’s cute because he needs to be in eye view of me at all times.

Henry made micro movements to move himself out of his comfort zone.

I might add that I tried to harness him first as my vet suggested so he wouldn’t run after a bird.

That didn’t work.

He put up a ton of resistance.

We needed to build up TRUST between us first.

He didn’t believe blindly that I would have his back.
Now he does.

I peeped what he was doing and apply that same principal to myself.

Sometimes it is great just to jump.

But if you have underlining limited beliefs that have not been identified the is a high chance of resistance that may alter the result you seek.

You have to have the right mindset.

To create habits that allows you to TRUST the outcome will be for your greater good.

That is why I believe if there is something you want to achieve and you have a lot of resistance on that subject, making small moves is the best way.

I am a writer.

I had a lot of fear surrounding becoming a successful writer; even though it is my dream.

I needed to shift my mindset.

The first thing I did was to make the decision to write every day for a month.
Nothing overwhelming.

One day I would write a word. The next maybe a sentence. I also started journaling more.

Taking small steps to establish a behavior that is aligned with my goal.

It’s been two months and look at me NOW.

I started a blog!

I took small steps to chip away at a belief that was not serving me.

Taking micro steps toward your dream life might be another way just to start the shift.

Because let’s be real.

A good majority of us are not ‘those kind of people’ that will dive off that cliff.

Nah…we may start by walking into the ocean.

Walking with a mindset of “no matter how small the step’ it is still a step FORWARD.”

Thank you for letting me share.

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The art of being lazy

“From outside the vortex your behavior is motivated.  From inside the vortex your behavior is inspired.” -Abraham

If you don’t know what the vortex is that Abraham is always speaking about it is ‘the place of alignment with source.’ 

The vortex is a place where all the high vibe frequencies are like joy, fun, love inspiration.

You know you are out of the vortex when you experience low vibrational frequencies.  Examples of those are frustration, anger, hopelessness.

Now, do you get why I love staying in the vortex on the regular.

Each day when you wake is a new point of attraction. -Abraham

Every day is a new opportunity to guide yourself into a high frequency hence, why first thing in the morning is a great opportunity to meditate.

Start the day in the right mindset.

Being in the right mindset at the start of the day is the mental nourishment you need later on when contrast hits you.  

When that wobble does appear during the day you are already in a mindset of trust and alignment you can then relax not react. 

Give yourself permission to stop.

Trust that you are answers you seek will find you.  

I was randomly listening to Oprah’s Super Soul podcast the other day. Her guest was Arianna Huffington. She was speaking about her book ‘Thrive: The third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder’.

The book was born after Arianna Huffington suffered a fall that ended up being a wakeup call for her to exam the meaning of being successful and how that impacted her life.  She was living in a go go go world measuring her life by money and power.  Not anymore.  Arianna Huffington has a new way of living and a new way of thinking.

The podcast was a delightful conversation about how many are distracting themselves from seeing their true selves.  Our pursuit of outer things takes a tool on our inner being. 

Never giving ourselves a break to relax and align.  

The funniest part of conversation was when Arianna Huffington talked about taking naps or time out to meditate.  

She joked that many heads of medical companies take time out to meditate for years, but never talked about it.

Some of us are programmed to work really hard.  To push and push until we get a result.  

Thank goodness ‘them times are changing’.  

We are learning to work smarter not harder.

Now… I am not promoting not doing anything at all.

It’s all about taking the aligned action.

The only way you can get into alignment is when you are relaxed.

You can see that kind of behavior in people who value staying in their joyful vortex.

Often their answers are “I don’t know” and “let me get back to you.”

On the flip side of that logic; emotional stable folks also make clear and fast decisions because they can feel the synchronicity or not.

That kind of precise decision making is all a benefit of slowing down and prioritizing getting into alignment.

The next time you are pushing yourself to go go go, take a moment to assess if the step you are in such a rush to take is valid.

Does it feel good in your heart?

The word lazy gets a bad rap.

Sometimes it good to slow down and watch the world go by for a minute.  

Many of miracles, inspirations and life changes ideas come in moments of peace.

When you take the time to allow them in.

Thank you for letting me share. 

Be kind. Be well. Smile. 

Two Phrases that indicate you are freeing you mind.

There is nothing for you to go back and live over, or fix, or feel regret about now. Every part of your life has unfolded just right.” -Abraham Hicks

Silencing the ‘ego’ and being introduced to your inner self is illuminating.

It is one of the first inductions on a spiritual journey.

After you master your ego; shoulders lighten as deconstruct the load you have been carrying.

Why?

Because you start to understand that everything isn’t about you. 

I probably should put that as the top phrase spiritual people say.  

But “It’s not about me” is something most say in their head.

Trust me.  I do it all the time. 

The two phrases that a person who is leaning to a more positive mindset adds to their vocabulary may be:

1. Everything happens for a reason.

That phrase is so very common.  

There isn’t a day that goes on planet Earth that someone is not reciting that phrase. 

I got a lot of slack from low vibrational people when I first started choosing ‘everything happens for a reason’ as my answer to circumstances. 

It was if I personally offended them because I express trust that; this is a benevolent universe.  

That’s the thing. 

When you start to understand that challenges arise to help you push past self-inflicted limitations and you find the lesson.

2. It is what it is.

I love the statement ‘it is what it is’. 

It is my go-to in the moment, to shift the paradigm to love.

‘It is what it is; to me is the surrender into the moment.  

To make peace with the experience.

Good or bad.

Making peace with a point in time is you allowing yourself to trust.

To believe that whatever is happening now will not be happening later.

 No sense getting your undies all up in bunch for events that you can’t control.

So, the next time one of your spiritual buddies mutters ‘It is what it is’ or ‘everything is happens for a reason’; with the intent of searching knowledge ask them why they said it.

After all, another perspective is a great chance to learn and grow.

Thank you for letting me share.

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Is the voice in your head yours?

Subconscious programming is real.

We are all programmed. 

Bruce H. Lipton PHD gave me a good perspective for identify subconscious programming.

“So, if people want to know what their programs are, I say what in your life comes easily to you is there because you have programs to support that.  Anything that you struggle to get to, that is because you have programs that don’t support that.”   – Bruce H. Lipton

https://www.brucelipton.com/blog/there-way-change-subconscious-patterns

Our behavior was shaped during our formative years (0-8).  

If your mother constantly told you that you act like your father; you may have started mimicking a couple of  your father’s habits.  

The good news is once you start to observe your thoughts; you will start to identify programs in your subconscious.

Just the other day I caught myself turning off a light in fear of an electric bill.

That’s not me.

That is a low vibration thought.  

I discovered a limited belief of lack.

Having discovered it, I decided to reach for another emotion.

I paused. 

Glanced out the window.

Took a breath.

Then, got an eye full and appreciated the ABUNDANCE of beauty outside my window.

I left the light on.

The thing about subconscious programming is…it is a habit.  

The key is to switch that negative habit to a positive habit.  

I identified that I had been programmed to live in a mindset of lack.  

To counter act that thought, I began a habit of being grateful for all the abundance my life.

 I include abundance in my morning gratitude entries.

I daily make the time to just appreciate the abundance that is around me. 

Example:  Grateful for the abundance of laughter I have with my bestie when we are together.

These small habits lower my resistance. 

Allowing more freeing thoughts of abundance now vibe in my spirit.

The next time you wake up doing something that you don’t necessary want to do ask yourself this question:

 WHY?

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Not my chair not my problem.

I share a bathroom with my cat Henry.
That means frequent trips to the garbage shoot.

Today’s jaunts ended in me noticing a pile of up trash bags in front of the garbage shoot.

The garbage shoot is also across the hall from an apartment.

Not my apartment.

Yet, I still found myself getting angry in behalf of these people.

Saying to myself:

“I would be pissed about that shit. I would call the office right away. We pay so much money for these apartments. THE DISRESPECT!!!”

I stopped myself, as I felt my emotions heighten.

“Why am I getting all worked up on something that has absolutely nothing to do with me?”

About 5 years ago; there was a video going around with a lizard with a man’s voice just talking sh$t. It was humorous.

The most humorous line was ‘not my chair not my problem’.
Now, as human beings we often take outer experiences and personalize them.

I took that line to me and used it to remember if it has nothing to do with me; I shouldn’t focus on it.

My sister would often say “we are all grown folks”, when family members would give their opinions on the way other family members are living their lives.

Those two lines came to my mind as I felt myself getting worked up over something that was none of my business.

I needed to move on.

Before I entered my apartment after seeing the trash pile; I shook it off.

Shook off that negative energy.

That negative energy I vowed was not going to follow me into my home.
Tip*. Moving your body is a great way to release energy if doesn’t serve you.

Life is too short to worry about what other people are doing.

Yes, other people will annoy you. It happens.

The point is; how long are you going to let it affect you?

When someone cuts you off while driving.

How long are you going to let one moment of contrast linger in your day?

Personally, I acknowledge with “that’s interesting” then move on.

While driving I make up silly excuses for other drivers to lighten situations:

“I bet they have to pee”.

Not giving life to negative situations opens up a lot of time to give attention moments that will serve you.

Energy flows where focus goes.

Thank you for letting me share.

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Breaking up with your old life.

It is ok to not be satisfied. 

Humans are made to be curious. 

I love the feeling of achievement.  It is impowering.

Yet, it can feel super weird sometimes. 

All because change sometimes comes with a sense of guilt.  

Guilt that you feel as you start to back away from things, people or places that no longer served you.

Guilt that you are living something or someone behind. 

A lot of us have to set up boundaries as we start on our self-development journey.

Awareness brings clarity.

Self-love is often mistaken for selfishness.

Growing is a basic human need is something that is not taught in school.

That is because a good majority of parental figures live in survival mode. 

Believing that fear and excitement can never coincide. 

Excitement can sometimes feel like fear.  

That is just your brain trying to protect you.

Fear of appears in different layers as you walk down your path of self-development. 

There are times you are so scared to change because you know you are out growing things.

Certain engagements or activities may not be relevant to you anymore.

Your mindset starts to change.  Certain underlying self-sabotaging habits come to light. 

Your world becomes more open as your mind does.

During the beginning stages of my awakening, I wanted to share as I learned.

Even to those who are not in the mental place to hear it.

Abraham Hicks often speaks about not pushing your journey onto other people.

The best thing you can do is ‘lead by example’.

I was glad when I received that information. 

It really engraved ‘everyone has their own path’.  

I wish not to be judged for walking my own path.

That is why I don’t judge others.

Instead, I feel honored to be a ‘witness of someone’s life.’  

The thing is… once make a decision to have a positive mindset; it is hard to revert. 

Your inner being hears you and starts to make it happen.

That is why you get those negative feelings warning you about self-sabotaging behaviors and negative.

You comfort zone should only be were you lay your head.

Remember that.

Thank you for letting me share.

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Misery loves company

‘Misery loves company’ is a statement that is very familiar in my life.  

As a child, I would watch adults come together and complain.

My younger self was branded ‘mean’ for the simple fact that; I didn’t smile much.

Wasn’t much of a talker either. 

Truth be told my younger self didn’t engage because she didn’t want to!

Not down for the complainers back then.  Not down for the complaining tribe now.

Thank goodness my world expanded as I aged.

I believe it was in my early 20’s the question:

 “What if this was your last moment? Do you want to go out happy or sad?”

We all gotta go sometime.  I prefer to go out smiling.

These days if I am not smiling, I am picturing a cartoon in my head or thinking about what I am wanting to eat.

People of a particular age will understand.

This connects me to a realization I discovered during my personal development journey.

Negativity is contagious = misery loves company.

Take it one step further and the word on the street is negativity is additive.

Awareness of self is a great push to dive deep into your beliefs.  

The self-talk gets louder and louder.

Trust breaking the addiction to negative thought is no easy chore. 

“Pain and negative emotions activate the reward centers of the brain, causing unconscious addition to those negative emotions.” – Dr. Ali Binazir

Dr. Ali Binazir piece on Huffington Post spoke to me.  

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/addiction-recovery-why-we_b_603566

It is a great read.

I experienced many aha moments as I read that article.

My sister and I are on the same vibe when it comes to spiritual things. 

She often says that certain negative family members just can’t help themselves.

I am finally got it.

Once I became dialed in with my emotion; I am able to catch myself before buying a ticket on negative train.   

The best tip I ever gotten is to acknowledge the problem; then focus on the solution.

As soon as I adapted that ‘solution minded’ habit my negative thinking radically shifted.

Making the decision to be adopted a more positive state requires work.  

Work by going inward to understand the programming that is lingering in the subconscious. 

Thank you for letting me share.

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You can’t push against anything without pushing against yourself.

Bold words from Abraham that made me chuckle a bit.
My mind went straight to those scenes when someone gets all mad and destroys their room. Like really go crazy and smashing everything.

I did that once when I was younger.
Notice I said ‘once’.

The aftermath of the destruction I caused was just a temporary fix.

Now a days I scream into a pillow. Or hit up a wreck room. Those really rock.

That is also why I don’t take my anger out on other people. I don’t yell.
My voice may go down an octave to be more intense, but I still won’t yell.

It’s not necessary. Not anymore.

I have learned that ‘making peace to wear you are at the moment’ is the answer.

And let me tell you that advice has really curved my reactions.

I have been dealing with a lot of different medical offices this year.

Before Covid hit I had a slight annoyance with the time management of one of these offices.

(Truth be told, I had an idea that something was up in the world because there was a lot of world meditations going on for a virus in China. So, my instinct told me to have a set plan into action for my recovery. I am a traveler and rarely settle in one place for very long.)

Most times people get upset about things they can’t control.
The main culprit for a majority of outbursts is other peoples’ behavior.

The thing is we can’t control other people behavior.

We can only control our own.

That’s the key.

People are going to do what they are going to do.

That is why I am no longer going to let that stress me out.

I started asking myself; “why am I putting myself into a bad mood getting myself all worked up about things completely out of my hand?”

That is when I adapted the concept of ‘making peace of where you are’.

If I truly believed that; ‘everything is always working out for me’ then I have to realize that sometimes things happen because they are supposed too.

My therapist loves to call this call this mentality “being okay with the imperfections of the day”.

I love those two mindsets.

Plus, getting all worked up and being mean to people to get what you want, is not worth the karma.

There are some instances yes, when being an a$$hole is valid. Most times there is no need.

What you put out will come back to you.

With that being said. Sh@t happens!

The truth of who you are is how you deal with it.

Will you push against yourself and introduce anger into your environment on things that you can’t control?

Or will you believe in your journey that includes those not so perfect moments knowing that lessons arrive in the weirdest packages sometimes.

Thanks for letting me share!

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

For more tips on how to stay in a more positive state check out of book on Amazon. It’s an easy read full of hacks to incorporate into your daily life so you can raise your vibe and start manifesting your dream life!

Wake up for yourself.

Mel Robbins has once again has me thinking.  She posted a quick video about dealing with anxiety.

My take away was the questioning “Are you waking up for yourself?”

Morning habits are so important and the more I understand myself the more I am consciously aware of my decisions that will impact the rest of my day.

So, when Mel Robbins asked are you waking up for yourself?  

I went back to one of the best times in my life which was working on Martha’s Vineyard.

I was lucky enough to be living in biking or walking distance of my job.

Back then, I woke many hours before I had to be to work to give myself plenty of time to ease my way into the day.

 Music was always playing as I during my morning coffee and getting dressed.

(It helped that I loved my job. It wasn’t just good money.  It was a good time.)

As I was reminded on that period of my life it really struck me that I made a conscious effort to take time for myself.  

It is all about the guest when you work in hospitality. 

I started the day off all energetic and happy which carried throughout the day.

I woke up for me.  

I tested this concept of a good morning routine the other day.

I awaken with enough time to drink coffee and hustle out the door to an appointment.  

I neglected meditation, no gratitude journal, no stretching, nothing.  

Although, I was still my joyful self, I did catch myself reacting and not responding like I went back on autopilot again. 

There was a small shift in my attitude.  Not much. A small amount.  

The next day I went back to my morning routine.  

I had a great day.  

I stayed focus on my happiness because I woke up and focused on MY happiness.

Because honestly, as much as we want to help others the first step is to help yourself.

There is a reason why they tell you to put your oxygen mask first during those emergency demonstrations on airplanes.

Thank you for letting me share.

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How to tip the scale towards positive when life comes fast and hard.

“A positive attitude is the pathway to the abundance that you seek.” -Abraham 

Every positive person has contrast (contrast is a negative vibration that you notice).

From the person that also hit you after running a light.  Or not having the extra money to splurge on Postmates for that Popeye’s chicken sandwich’ on your cheat day.

That kind of stuff does affect actually effect a ‘positive person’; just like everyone else.

The main difference is that we the way we let it affect us. 

Most of us who follow the teachings of Abraham and the law of attraction understand that we see what we don’t want to launch a desire of what we do want. 

When that negative thought is triggered a good majority of us will go inward to find out what is really going on with our vibration. 

The guy running the light happened when on the way to appointment deeply didn’t didn’t want to go to.   The extra money not being in the bank is because you are eating healthy and that Popeye’s chicken sandwich is a step backward.   

So…you may wondering? 

“Okay great, now; how did you switch your mindset, so those low vibration emotions didn’t stay with you continuously thru out the day?”

Glad you asked.

Abraham teachings always mentions writing a list of ‘positive aspects’ to refocus.  It is a tool to get off the subject that is bringing you low and focus on gratitude.  

Part of my morning routine is writing in my gratitude journal; but realistically, I am not walking around with a gratitude journal all day. That is why this little hack is a great way to infuse more gratitude during the way.  

It’s fun to mix things up!

Ester Hicks is a fan of this and often turns to this method when she needs to tune your vibration to a different station.

It is so easy to do.  

Grab a piece of paper and pen or open the notes app on your phone then…

Just write or type.

Look around.  Close your eyes.  Take a deep breath. Bring what is positive things are around you at this moment and list them.  

Focusing on the good things that you have right in front of you will shift your mind to gratitude.  An instant mood enhancer.

I do this all the time. 

Sometimes I have to stop myself because I will fill up pages and pages.

The end results.

Nothing but smiles.

I encourage you to try this if you feel yourself sliding into a lower vibe.

After all, ‘What’s the best that can happen?’

If you wish for more info about Abraham and Ester Hicks teachings check out their books.  My personal favorite is ‘Ask and it is given’.

We also have a book for more tips and hacks, check it out!

Thank you for letting me share!

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Lemons do make lemonade it’s up to you to sweeten it or not.

I had a doctor’s appointment today.

After 2 hours of waiting and no estimated time of the doc’s arrival. 

I left.

The appointment wasn’t urge rent.  

I have other options.

And I left a note.

Yet.

I still went home and complained about my experience.

The first time I complained; I wanted validation. 

The second time I complained it because of disappointment. 

(I really liked this doc).

The third time I attempted to complain the Universe stepped in.

This is what went down:

I had just popped down to watch a cat video to cheer me up. 

I pondered calling my mom to be the ear of my complaint when the urge to pee takes hold.  

I head for the bathroom and let the video play.   

Losing track of time in the bathroom I come out to a Jake Ducey video playing.

It is the video below. 

The video was all about how he switched his mindset.

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I was like whoa.

He went on to tell his story about being shut out of one path only to land on the right path. 

I mean it is hard to see when you are in the thick of things.  Especially, if you are programmed to wait for the other shoe to drop.

Jake Ducey’s video help me shift the perspective.

He had some tips for when things seemly are not going your way.

• Tip one

          Accept. 

           It is what it is.

I am home now all nice and snug; just hanging out with my cat.  And what happened is in the past. There is nothing I can do about that doctor’s visit now so why stew on it.  

• Tip two

               Ask yourself what is the lesson here? 

           And find the good in it.

My visit was just an attempt to control a situation.  I shall trust more.

And I got some content.

• Tip three

      Forgive what happened.

I love the Queer Eye Guys.  They were actually on Family Feud with Steve Harvey.  It was the first cast of the Queer Eye Guys and the most recent cast of Queer Eye Guys with Wesley Hamilton from Season 4 was standing in for Karamo. Wesley Hamilton recanted what happened when he met the guy who shot him.

It is powerful.

His response is also what I believe is a perfect example of forgiving of what you are went underwent.

‘Forgive the rest’ -Jake Ducey     

Wesley Hamilton is such a legend.  

He inspires me to find the good every day.

I am grateful for that message from the Universe via Jake Ducey.  

And grateful for today. 

I am adopted that phrase ‘What’s the best that can happen?’ into my inner dialog.

Funny thing is…as soon as I said “What’s the best that can happen?” out loud; I opened my computer and wrote this nifty post.

I used to take my lemonade with no sugar. 

Now a days I’ll take it sweet.

Thank you for letting me share!

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Shine bright with your own light.

It is so easy to get caught up into what others think you should do or be. 

 It sneaks up on you with the feeling of being overwhelmed.

Such experience has entered my atmosphere lately.

My intent is to help people thru my writing.  

As the ‘call for action’ for those who wish to put more positive energy into the world is in full effect right now, the urge to step up is strong.

My response was a deep dive into webinars, challenges, Facebook groups and consumption of a ton of YouTube videos.  

All in the name of learning to start a business to spread positive vibes.

Totally, as I am healing from healing from an injury (which is another story).

It was too much.

I was doing the wrong kind of work.

I was following other people’s paths.

I was so focused on how others became successful.

And dealing and managing pain.  (no pain killers here, I prefer CBD)

abrahamhicksquote. Bekindbewellsmile.com

Your work is to soothe yourself into alignment more -Abraham Hicks

Also…aren’t the most successful people the ones who break the mold?

I took a break.   

Turned my boat around and went with the float downstream with my inner being.   I followed my feelings aka following my bliss.

I played with my cat more.

I read books that I found entertaining.

I allowed myself to be exactly who I am.

And you know what happened?

I found a mentor.

A great woman who is helping shape my business.  (Shout out to Maggie)

I am taking deep breaths again.

I am myself again.   

I am riding that high-flying disk as ME, not what they tell me to be.

I learned a valuable lesson from the contrast.

I am grateful for all the valuable information that I have learned.

But!!!

I won’t let my shine dim again.

How about you?

When you feel overwhelmed what do you do for relief?

Let me know in the comments.

Thank you for letting me share.

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How you expect the day to flow is how the day will go.

How I expect the day to go is how the day will go.

If you wake up and stub your toe and believe it is a sign of a bad day.

Odds are you will have a bad day.

That is why I believe there are so many videos, presentations, and endless verbalizations about a ‘morning routine’.  

Having a good morning routine is so important that people are shouting about it from the roof tops!

I started tuning in to my morning routine habits when I started working on Martha’s Vineyard.  I was fascinated that people wanted to hang out together to get breakfast or coffee before going to work.  

My morning during that period consisting of waking, drinking water, pooping, putting on music to dance around while getting dressed then work. 

Actually, my morning routine did incorporate music in my morning routine lead to me starting off the day joyfully. 

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I would often make it my intention to have a fun day because I looked out the window and saw so much beauty.  #marthasvineyard

Eventually, I started living earlier for work.  Enjoying the easy walk thru small parks and meeting up with friends/co-workers on the dock for a morning coffee.

I enjoyed every day because that was my expectation.

The expectation of having a good day was my dominate emotion.  My vibe was to have fun.  

I didn’t know too much about the law of attraction then.  I had read ‘The Secret’; but near fully grasped that concept of vibration.

I loved where I was, loved my friends, and loved my job. That was all that mattered.  My journey was day by day with a future never imaged.  

I was attracting by default.   

Then I #woke up and decided I wanted to be a deliberate creator.  

I loved my joyful days living and working on the vineyard but like we all do.  I grew out of it.

I finally believed that I could have a future.

Presently, I wake up with the expectation that I will find one more yellow brick for my road.  

I am tuned in and open to receiving because I have the expectation of being aligned with my inner self because I decide every morning to do so.

Reinforcing, it with my morning routine.

I like listening to Mary Kate on Youtube.com.; she has a great ‘morning miracle mediation’.  That I have been doing frequently.  

I am drawn to this meditation because she guides you to be grateful and to visualize how you wish for day to go.

It helps me to dial in to my expectations of the upcoming day.

This conscious awareness of expectations also helps me to witness my expectations of certain situations.

For example, I have a family member who likes to complain.  My response is usually to listen then gently guide them to be more solution minded.  

This actually works.  The conversations most often lead to resolution.  Which is great.

Cool right.

It’s all about the expectation.

Let’s pass the ball to you.

When you wake up does your morning routine guide your expectations to positive or negative?

When you encounter certain situations do you expect a resolution or more problems?

Personally, I started expecting things to always be working out for me.

It doesn’t matter if I don’t fully understand in the moment.  

Because I have unwavering belief in the wholeness and the goodness of who I am.

I wake up expecting magic and the feeling of freedom.

What do you expect to happen?

Are you waiting for the other shoe to drop?

Bring your awareness to that question as you go thru the motions of your day.

Then allow yourself to witness the answers.

It will give you a better understanding of your current vibration.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

Thank you for letting me share!

You catch more bees with honey

My high school guidance counselor Mr. Fortino was the first person to tell me that being a nice person in this will get you far in this world. He wanted me to know that fighting to get what you want was creating a karma that I really didn’t want.

I came from a family where violence and negative reinforcement was the foundation and I often pushed back with more negativity. I didn’t really understand his stance of niceness until I had my son.

Don’t get me wrong I wasn’t a saint after he was born but the message was integrated in my brain and I didn’t let it go.

The more I learned about the law of attraction, the more I understood how being simply a nice person adds value to life. People will help you when you need it.

The more you come comprehend why you do things; the less angry you are when something doesn’t go your way. Resistance takes on a whole new meaning in your life. Allowing and receiving becomes automatic.

When someone doesn’t do, act, or be what you want; your attitude becomes one of indifference.

Why?

Easy answer.

Because everything is always working out for you.

The more mindful you are; the phrase ‘it’s not about me’ quiets the ego.

It is easy not take it personally if another individual is not cooperating with you.

You can still be nice because ‘its not about you’. Which leads you back to respond in kindness, Not react in fear.

It’s okay for someone else to be angry. You don’t have to lower your vibration to meet them.

Show them how wonderful a high vibrational person responds with kindness.

Eventually, what you need will come to you without resistance, for you have never wavered from truth of who you are.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile.

The quality of language is the quality of your life.

When you speak, are you speaking as the person you want to be?
or the person you think you should be?

There are words that I just won’t say because I don’t want to be associated with its context, good or bad.

There are words that are taboo that I will say because I am okay with the context.

The point is I say what I want to say to express the kind of life that I am living and the dream life that I wish to manifest.

I am no longer labeling myself as broke or undeserving.

Nah… a couple of years ago, I made a conscious decision to change that.

Want to know how?

Keep reading.

The first step is to hear your thoughts.

Meditation is a great way to hear yourself.

The quickest to understand the voice in your head is silence.

There is a reason the smartest person in the room is usually very still.

There are listening.

Listening is a life hack.

Most people during a conversation isn’t fully listening entirely.

They are racking around past scenarios to have a reaction.

If you present, you will respond and not react.

That my friends, take some practice.

Let’s get back to my favorite way. Silence.

I finally get what all those silent meditation retreats are about.

I have never been to one. (I see one in my future.)

Since, I can’t go right now.

I just decided not to talk for 48 hours.

It’s actually really easy in this technology age.

I answered phones calls via text.

I used my body language if I needed to interact.

It is surprisingly, easy not to speak.

And rewarding.

When you stop talking you hear the narration going on in your head.

It is very freeing to hear what your subconscious has to say.

It is enlightening to hear what kind of life you are attracting.

Are you being kind to yourself?

Are you being kind to others?

You are the creator of your reality.

What kind of reality are you creating?

Are your consistent thoughts joyful or hurtful?

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Are joy, positivity and gratitude in your language?

Or is strife.

Life is what you make it.

What is the real story in your head?

Challenge yourself to listen to yourself.
Go silent for a while.

Take a walk silently.

Turn the radio off in the car.

Give yourself 10 minuets of staring at the sky.

If you are able be quiet for a 24 or 48 hours.

Get familiar with the voice in your head.

Afterall, it’s yours.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!

Kindness is the new cool!

Kindness really is the new cool.

And…its trending.

Random acts of kindness; has always been a thing.  There are countless videos featured on morning tv, clips on the internet of selfless interactions and let’s not forget ‘Some good news’ with John Krasinski.

Those beautiful stories we can never get enough of and it happens constantly every day.

Just recently my physical therapist shared a ‘random act of kindness’ story with me with great delight.

  She had been out running around all afternoon getting last minuet things for the upcoming storm.

(We live in Florida and a tropical storm was approaching.  Luckily, it was just a rain event).

On her last stop it came to her attention that she had left her wallet somewhere.  She back tracked with no luck.

Feeling frustrated and annoyed she head home.  Not being keen on driving without her license.

She drove down her street thinking nothing of a car idling near here house.  It was a common occurrence because the house next door was for sale.

Resigned that she was going to have to take the necessary steps to replace all her contents in her wallet.

She starts to unpack with a sigh.

The doorbell rings. 

The car that she noticed idling next door was now in front of her house.

Apprehensively, she opens the door and to a stranger asking for her.

With her wallet!

All the contents intact!

This warmed my heart folks. I hope it warmed yours.  Because this beautiful human being is constantly taking care of others it was nice that she was taken care of for a change. 

#essentialworker

For the fact that in this time of ‘social distancing’ and a storm approaching, a stranger would drive all the way to a stranger’s house is … (there are no words) #love

Example number 2; of how we all are ‘SEEING’ each other is another friend whom is a server at a neighbor restaurant who received a really good tip.  

Okay you might be saying “well that is nothing new”

(Thank goodness everyone has finally got on board about tipping)

The thing is my friend really appreciated that tip.  People are not going out as much as they used to.  The hospitality industry has taken a big hit.  

Which means hospitality workers are taking a big hit to their wallet.

The folks that left that awesome tip!  Well done! You just helped pay someone’s rent.  You just allowed for another week groceries.  You just made someone’s day! 

How the world is joining together to uplift each other is a testimate to the human spirit. 

My final story of a random act of kindness happened to me as I took a walk in the name of exercise.  

I am recovering from an injury and walking fast or long distances (at the moment) is a bit of a challenge.  But a gal gotta do what a gal’s gotta do to lose that weight.  

As I hustled to cross the street as the cross walk was counting down, A fellow in the car leaned out the window and yells: “You got it girl…keep going! You are looking good!”

I must give context to the statement because it wasn’t sexist at all.  

First of all, I live in Wilton Manors!  The most amazing LGBTQ+ city in South Florida and the nicest!   And I felt the man’s intention of kindness in the car when he made that statement.

The biggest smile erupted out of my face after he spoke to me. I have been feeling down about my weight that day.  I waved as he drove away with a tear in my eye.  

That one little statement elevated me.  I had a bounce in my step as I walked back home.

You never know what someone else is going thru or when you need a universal hug.  

That is why kindness is so important.  

As the law of attraction dictates you receive what you put out.  

Put out kindness to others when you can, and it will come back when you need it.

Thank you for letting me share.

Be kind. Be well. Smile!!!